Like Feminine guys but I'm not a dominant type. Help?

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I'm a girl. I like more feminine looking guys and guys that act a bit feminine. But, as far as I can tell so far, I am very, very submissive/non aggressive sexually. A lot of the "pretty" guys I come across tend to want to be dominated by a girl (or a guy) and well.. I really don't know if I could do that. I suppose there could be a dominant floating moon inside of me somewhere but I haven't seen it.

So, in going after more feminine guys, am I going to have a really hard time finding one that will actually be into me sexually? I mean, what have all of you experienced and seen? I know some guys are asexual and maybe wouldn't care either way, but ...

Sometimes I feel like there is something wrong with me for preferring men that most often end up being gay. Like, some part of me is just immature or something. I don't know...

But, I do want a guy that's into similar things so that we could at least agree on a movie together. I just feel like I can't even physically watch most action movies. The constant movement on the screen and lack of people vocally explaining everything just shuts me off. And I don't like horror movies and the typical guy comedies... So, there's another reason for my preference. And.. And I'm rambling.

Any thoughts? Ideas or whatever?

I think that most feminine guys appreciate a soft touch.

I wouldn't call myself feminine guy but I'm certainly not a macho guy either. Generally I go for tom boys (girls). Do you think you are a tom boy or at least play up to the role of being a tom boy ?


PS. You don't need to be a dominant girl to be a tom boy Sometimes I find dominant girls overwhelming

Johnny Dep and who else types? Not Bruce Willis eh?

I have a friend who is into guys who look almost entirely female, except for a few features. She claims she does like submissive guys to a degree (after me asking her), but in actuality she seems to go after men who are primarily quite dominant. She hasn't had too much success in finding a guy that feminine as far as I know.

I don't know what exact traits you mean by feminine and dominant but I can kind of relate in a way, since I am very turned on by girls that act very tough and dominant but secretly and reluctantly crave to be dominated by a strong man, and I feel like they are a bit more common than I first thought (the masculine/submissive type). In my experience, the feminine/dominant types of guys and girls are a bit rarer, Although I am told I am a bit feminine in some ways (the movies/books I like, as well as how I act around friends). I am also fairly dominant.

I've been told I look kind of girly, but I behave like a dude. I asked him if he liked anything he saw, and he shut up. Don't worry, there's guys out there for you. It may just be you like guys that don't fit into an extreme caricature of masculinity, but you still like guys to be guys nonetheless.

Here's and important insight to the mind of a man.

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o[/youtube]

Doesn't matter if your Subby or not still had sex.

I have never considered myself a tom boy... But I read the tom boy girls thread and I'm completely confused on what exactly people consider "tom boy". I always think of it as: jeans, big t-shirt, no make-up, and into guy-stuff.

I don't do make-up or jewelry, but I think I look fairly feminine. I dress in fitted androgynous clothes (no big necks that would just show my lack of cleavage, cargo pants, etc....)

And I'm shy/passive. You know, one of those more aloof types, aside from when I'm not being aloof...



Yeah, I guess so.. Guys that lean more towards Johnny Depp than Bruce Willis, but I was thinking more feminine than that.
I guess I consider this more masculine and don't find him attractive:
http://ts3.mm.bing.net/images/thumbnail ... 12d4248db3
If the thumbnail works....
And this more feminine:
http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/ ... 0-2560.jpg
I don't know. I'm bad at remembering the names of people/actors I see...


I guess just part of me says that I should try to go for someone less girly because there's already too much girly in my life. But then again, masculine guys can make me feel too girly and I don't know if I can tolerate being more girly than I am. Might explode or something.

Oh, yeah, but I'm sure they are only happy with it for a limited time.

i think so toooo. my daughter likes men who are more effeminate and/or androgynous, but those guys don't seem to need for her to be too aggressive. i guess maybe it depends on how extreme they are, or whether it's just they way they look or a lifestyle choice.

i know exactly what you mean..ok so part of it is because of the influence of all the romantic korean dramas but that is when i realized that i kind of like soft guys since they tend to be more passionate and understanding...but at the same time i want to be dominated by the guy and as such can be very shy..
Hmm..the problem is being feminine with guys in west is such a gay thing but in the east it's ok...so try finding somebody from the east!!

I'm in the US, so yeah, I see that here. But finding someone from the east is kind of hard when you're in the west..

Huh? You're female and being feminine in the west = gay? I must have been born in another century.

being feminine for 'guys' in west is gay!!