Cold call?

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So I was looking through my desk and found a number a girl gave me. She was working during the carnival, and she tried like, asking me out, but I was too socially oblivious to know she was. So she asks me if I have Facebook (I don't) and gave me her number. I texted her once that night with a standard "Hi" type of message but didn't call her and nothing came of it.

I didn't realize she wanted a one night stand like, that night with me (or that she had any sexual/romantic interest at all.) The question she asked was "Do you know anything fun to do around here?" To which I replied "Nope, I don't do anything fun." (I'm really smooth when I have to answer questions without ample time to think them over.)

But, I found her number she wrote down and I'm tempted to just shoot a text her way, call her cute, say I remember her, and see wtf happens. She lives a state away from me according to the number she gave, so again, not too much seems possible. It's also been about a full year.

I did cold calls when I worked very briefly selling windows. This seems about equivalent to that.

So, go for it? Or too dumb/too creeperish? It seems if I lose, no consequences and if I win, longdistance hot girlfriend?

Thoughs?

My thoughts:

I don't want to say "don't go for it" because ya never know.

That said, it's been over a year...while you may remember her, she's probably had several one-night stands since then and has totally forgotten who you are. This is an empathy issue. While from your perspective it seems like an interesting prospect, put yourself in her shoes: Some guy, who couldn't go for it a year ago, is NOW finally making a call. A really BIG delay. Don't pretend you're the first guy (or the last guy) she's done this with. She's found others who took the bait.

A year ago, she saw you as either "not getting it" OR disinterested. To call her out of the blue now is like, "wait, who? This guy, he had his chance...he's calling me now?? A year later...seriously? I barely even remember him now."

Just being realistic. I think the ship has sailed with this girl. I can totally relate to you, man. I've been in this situation too, finally getting it after much time has passed and acting on it way way way too late. It didn't change the fact that it was way way way too late. With girls, you gotta act fast. Use this as a learning lesson, but I think it's too late for the year+ girl.