What does this mean?

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I saw a girl getting off an elevator that I knew the name of so I said, "Hi [her name]", and after I did that she hugged me (which was really a suprise), asked me how I was and then she proceeded to her room. I really don't understand it. I do have a romantic interest in her. What does this mean? What should I do next?

Understand that it may not have really been flirting or anything, girls lots of times hug as a usual greeting. My friends and I do it all the time. But also, she wouldn't have hugged you if she didn't like you at all. (Note that by "like" here, I am not referring to having romantic feelings), so it may mean you have a fair shot with her. Try flirting with her when you see her and see if she flirts back But really, the only sure way to know if she does like you is to tell her how you feel...My current boyfriend and I were flirting with eachother for months, but both too shy to actually ask eachother out, or let the other know how we felt. When we finally did, it was a huge relief!

I wouldn't read into it too much if I were you. Just enjoy the fact that a girl liked you (as a person, not necessarily in a romantic sense) enough to hug you. However, feel free to ask her out on a date, using casual language in the process, something like: "I'll be doing [activity] at [date and time]. Do you want to join me?" In her mind, it creates less pressure (supposedly, she's simply joining you for [activity], rather than going on a date), even though practically, it's still date. While on a date, flirt with her. Examples of that would include briefly touching her to emphasize a point, reading books from the Sexuality section in a bookstore, or simply making her laugh. Good luck.

yeah.

don't look too much into it. I'm pretty friendly with one of my floormates girlfriend. She's a nice girl, and I talk to her a lot, and go to her dorm area and visit occasionally. yeah and fer all we know she may have a guy already.

hayes,
Do not perceive her hugging you as flirting. Just use trial & error.
If it does not go the way you wanted to, lay low & think of a strategy.

She may be a lesbian/taken for all we care!

She was just glad to see you.

And/or she is "a hugger" and likes to hug everyone she knows.

How long had it been since she'd seen you last (before this hug)? How regularly do you see her? What is your connection to her? (Fellow students, live in the same building, or what?)

It is really hard to analyze this with so little information.

But no, a hug is not romantic. Not in itself. In itself this is not an overt gesture of romantic interest. In fact, as a woman I'd say I would not normally hug a man I had a crush on. It would be more of a friendship thing.

If anything I'd say women usually try to look their best, smile a lot and blink their eyes a lot at a man they have a crush on. Although those are hardly steadfast signs to go by either.