My little "brother" just told me that he loves me.

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Okay,so there is this 15-year-old guy that lives about an hour from me.We are very close,and I even adopted him as my little brother.

The other night,he told me that he loved me.I honestly don't feel the same way about him.I don't want to hurt him,but I don't want to go out with him.

And yes,he DOES know about how I love women romantically...he says he doesn't care,he still thinks we'd make a cute couple. He also said for me to do whatever makes me happy.


-SpaceCase

well.

oh lord.

Space, I ave few same sex females date the occasional guy, and it's not all that bad. If he's not willing to give up, then its because he believes that you two have a chance, I'd not push him away so lightly. If I were you, I'd be willing to date him and see where it leads.

now, I understand that you prefer women over men, but there are those few females with female partners that do have the occassional romance with a man. try it.

You COULD try it, but if you don't, then PLEASE don't lead him on. Honestly, I was in a situation where I had very very strong feelings for someone who...well, wasn't into boys, but I didn't know that for a while. I clung to this bloody hope of a relationship because I interpreted her friendly smiles as flirting, just to have some hope, because I didn't know anything and I couldn't just ASK her...and in the end I just kept on trying and failing to get over her. It's been three years now and I'm STILL not over her.

So, if you're really sure that you're 100% into girls, not willing for any boy romance, please be upfront with him. Tell him gently, and sweetly, but still firmly and bluntly--if he's your friend, you don't want it to hurt any more than is necessary, but you also want to give him 100% clarity.

If you don't feel the same way about him, adamently say no thanks, let's stay siblings!

and yet no one listens to me.

oh well.

all I have to say, is do what you feels is right.

Wish I could offer something else but, just tell him you're not interested. It might make the relationship awkward as friends but, you can't just not let him have a clue.

It is unkindness poised as flattery to 'adopt' a member of the opposite sex(or same, at times) as a brother or sister.

I've never seen it cause anything but hardship.

My brother would do that to the cute girls in school. He was unable to resolve his attraction with the fact that he thought 4 years difference was too much. So they would plop themselves in his lap and inquire about their big brother, and then move onto me "you must be my big brother too then!" and I would look at em and bluntly say "you are too hot to be my sister".

See the difference? My brother flattered them, but left them frustrated, while I was rude(but complimentary) and left their options open(and mine)..

Needless to say, I am an aspie, and didnt get much further than that most of the time.

dang. I feel sorry for you.

me?

I just need time. and I'll get what i want.

Take his virginity, the tell him his penis is too small and that he's turned you gay. He'll leave you alone after that.

that works?

while it is rude, it's very effective.............of course I should point out, I haven't had that happen yet.

I tried to top it but couldn't. Here's my effort:

If you couldn't bear him touching your poon tell him soon.

That's quite sound advice, actually. Let him know clearly but cause as little hurt as possible in the process. It's the best way.

Heh,he dumped me for another guy.

*shrugs*


He is still my little brother.


-SpaceCase

is there some connection between this big brother/sister organisation and homosexuality or is it just a coincidence?