First Date?

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I got the inspiration from the "First Kisses" thread to make a first date thread. How old were you, and how did you spend your first date? Just curious.

My first date was a few days after I turned 17 and I went bowling with a guy that I liked at the time. We went with one of my friends and her boyfriend as well. It was fun, but we were all embarrassingly bad at bowling. It might not have been the most interesting first date, and I can't believe it was almost a year ago already.

You're lucky. I didn't have my first date until I was 19. It was at a Thai restaurant near my University. He paid, the food was great, the conversation was okay, little did I know he would emotionally abuse me, cheat on me, and constantly lie.

15, and went to the movies. I'd already been friends with the person for a while so it's hard to say it was really a "date," but it was when we started thinking of things as a relationship.

What's to say about a movie date? We each paid for our own, we sat in seats, we watched the movie. No popcorn, but as always I smuggled a cola in my handbag. The movie was good, as I recall. *shrug*

I am 26 and have never been on one.

on my first date we didn't kiss or even hold hands, but we considered ourselves "going around" <--- not sure why we called it that. we met at the mall and sat and talked and he insisted on buying me ice cream. i resisted because i brought my own money, then he got embarrassed... so i agreed to let him buy me the cheapest popsicle in the store.

I don't remember! I find this a little disappointing

My first date was with a girl from my class; it was very uninspiring and nerve-wracking, at least in hindsight.

I was 18 at the time, freshman in college. There was a girl in my class, and one day, we ran into each other when we were both staying late on campus to work on homework. (We were both commuters.) We started talking, and at one point in the conversation, she showed what I though was romantic interest. I didn't find her attractive at all, but I was so thrilled by the prospect of going on a date, I just jumped at the chance. So I asked her out. She said she had a busy schedule (in hindsight, a MAJOR red flag), so we weren't able to go out until two weeks later. After two long, slow weeks, I met her at the campus cafeteria, and off we went!

We took the city bus downtown. (Again, I was thrilled beyond belief that she was OK with it; I originally planned to pay for a taxi, since I didn't have a driver license at the time.) We walked around, and stopped at a local Chinese place to eat, plus at Baskin Robbins for dessert. I paid for her meal. The whole time, I was feeling nervous, confused, and even slightly panicked. I kept wondering if the date was going well, if I was doing everything right, if what I planned was romantic enough, and if she still liked me even after I made mistakes. On the surface, I smiled, talked about romantic topics (history, poetry, nature, etc.), and gave her compliments, but when she wasn't looking, I carefully scanned the area around me, to make sure no one I knew was there. (I'll admit it, I was uncomfortable with that date, since I didn't find the girl attractive.) To use an analogy, it all felt like trying to drive a car on a giant oil slick. Eventually, the nerves got to me, and I subtly (or maybe, in retrospect, not so subtly), suggested that we go back. We got on a bus, got off at her stop, and I walked her home. The date ended with a hug. It felt amazing at the time, but compared to the much better hugs I've gotten from girls in the years later, that was clearly a courtesy hug, and a pretty dry one, I must add.

I was 18 and befriended a girl in my hostel. She and I went to the same high school, and there we met her friend during recess. When this first girl left the hostel and the high school, all of a sudden. Her friend that stayed asked to me to go out to see a movie. I was nervous and intrigued to a girl asking me out. I agreed and met her at the mall to see the movie. We were so uncomfortable with each other during the whole date, that we never got to talk eventually like we used to. She was pretty, but for some reason I wasn't attracted to her. I never initiated anything.

We left, and never spoke to each other after this event.