Aspie girl and dating

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I have a giant problem (at least in the sense that I will die alone if I don't fix it): I can't look at, talk to, or even acknowledge the presence of guys that I'm interested in.
Though, I do unfortunately give the right signals to the wrong people (I've been asked out twice by guys I wasn't interested in at all).
I feel more comfortable around guys that I'm not attracted to (I don't see them as threatening I suppose); I smile and laugh with them, and can sort of have conversations with them (as close to a conversation as I can get anyways, it mostly consists of them talking). Then the guys get the wrong idea (from my smiling, laughing, and "talking" to them) and suddenly I have a stalker on my hands (this has happened to me 5 times in the past 4 years.. ).
I want to be able to look at and talk to the guys I like, not the weirdos that like to approach me.

Well, that was a long winded explanation of a simple question: How do I approach guys that I like or get them to approach me?

In fact any and all dating advice is welcome. But please keep in mind that I am painfully shy and awkward (I have the worst of the Asperger's social awkwardness ).

Well if you feel socially awkward, you might try watching other people's expressions and signals and try them yourself. Learn all the social cues. Whether you do or you don't, you could also try an acting/theatre class in your area. Either way, it'll help you gain some skills, and in the latter case, you also interact with people some in an acting setting(and get advice too!) and it'll help you gain confidence that'll help you talk to the guys that you want to talk to.

At some point you have to just overcome it and do it, and it'll get easier. Hope this helps.