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Einfari
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25 Sep 2012, 10:47 pm

Over the last month, I've been seeing this guy. Our relationship has been pretty casual, mostly just going out to eat once in while. I have AS as does he. Last Friday night everything changed. We went out to eat and went to his dorm after that. Where everything got weird was we were watching a movie and cuddled a bit. I enjoyed it but felt really weird because I have never really done that before. I never did anything but hug the last guy I dated. After hat he rubbed m back and tried to kiss me. It wasn't really a quick kiss either. I had no idea what I was doing to I freaked out. I'm such an idiot. He apologized about it later, but I told him I wasn't mad but just freaked out because of my lack of experience. He seemed to get it, but I'm sill afraid that I messed up. Does this guy actually like me or did hormones just get the best of him? We have a lot in common and get along, but I'm so afraid to mess up because of how my last attempted relationship ended up. Any advice?



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26 Sep 2012, 12:24 am

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He apologized about it later, but I told him I wasn't mad but just freaked out because of my lack of experience. He seemed to get it, but I'm sill afraid that I messed up.

As long as you communicated this properly you'll be fine. Just tell him to be patient with you and that you'll make it worth his while :wink:



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26 Sep 2012, 11:44 am

Do you want to kiss him again? If so, you will probably need to initiate this time. Nothing wrong with that.



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26 Sep 2012, 12:24 pm

If he didn't like you I doubt he would try and kiss you :)

If I was seeing someone (even casually) for a month I would like a kiss every now and then. But that's just me

It seems he understood, you didn't mess up, you communicated what you felt. That's the important thing.


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26 Sep 2012, 8:01 pm

You have to figure out the comfort level between each other and take it slow. I tried rushing things once and it ended up ruining the relationship. : / Remember slow and steady win the race! lol