THISis why i quit dating sites

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as a 23(almost) kissless virgin, it gets frustrating at times...All I do is try and try, and I either get fat ugly girls talking to me or I'll have girls like the one below who string me along and pretend to be interested in me and then stop replying out of the blue..it is so frustrating..this is one of the better looking ones.

ok it says error in posting so i posted it all in post 2. I took step sto ensure her privacy and this post took forever to make and ineed the support so please dont delete this thread.

and yes i was totally bsing when i told her my reasoning for being on a datng site..the real reason is that girls find me repulsive lol.

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Can I be honest with you?

Almost every dating guru encourages males to meet as many women as possible and interact with them.
So an overweight girl starts chatting with you and you arent really that interested, you reply to her and you try to see what works best.

Meet some of this girls that are approaching you even if its just for a fun day out with no intention of anything else. This will help you become more comfortable when a girl you are really interested in appears.


For example: Ive been talking to this girl online last week(we both know nothing is going to happen, its just friendly banter) one of the things that she has brought up several times is why she feels the need to keep replying after Ive treated her "badly"(aka limited teasing that has been tested on several girls offline/something Id like to have the guts to try offline at some point) and why she feels so comfortable around me(act like you know each other for a while convincingly and she´ll believe the same thing, even if you just met her).

This teasing that I currently use isnt tested around the prettiest girls in town, its actually tested on whoever gives me the time of the day(you can tease males as well with just a few tweaks) thats why its working. If I had limited its use to prettiest girls in town I probably would be at square-1 because Id be sad about how most girls Im trying to approach dont want to listen to me(which would be understandable considering I was extremely unexperienced and they tend to get approached by several males a day).

Also:
Poster below is completely right.
There are some jokes that need to be avoided and sending a stereotypical joke about someone´s religion just after they´ve told you how important religion is to them isnt the way to go(Just so you have an idea Ive met plenty of religious and Ive joked around with them, I havent joked about their religion at any point because I know they feel very strongly about it and they´d overreact)

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@ wtfid2
It seems like she's mostly being polite. It doesn't seem like you guys have a lot of chemistry in your banter. And then your last message you said the thing about wanting to have 10 kids and she might have taken offense to that. Even if it was mild offense, combined with the lack of chemistry, she might have just decided she should keep looking.

I have no chemistry with anyone so i guess ishould give up

who decides to start looking after stringing someone along.
It was a mild jewish joke if she took offense to that she;s crazy. I think the most plausible explanation is she thinks im a loser bc I don't fit in at clubs and bars.

as for giving the ugly girls a chance..id rather die a virgin than to be with someone im not attracted to..im not a bad looking guy...I did go out with a y fat girl my first pof date..date lasted a full 2.5 hrs of straight taking and then the coffee shop closed and we sat in her car for 30 mins at hvr request not mine...weird thing is she didnt like me either

I would say that real life is easier since girls in real life are only approached a few times a week whereas girls on dating sites have a few hundred messages to sort through. That can inflate their ego somewhat and you will learn a lot quicker approaching girls in public.

Theres nothing in my post that indicates that you should sleep with someone you are unattracted to
All Im saying is a little experience wont hurt you in the long term but feel free to keep having the same conversations online and wonder what went wrong instead of trying to find out what works and what doesnt.

i posted this to find out what works..i dont need to talk to ugly chicks to find out what works.

I joined pof bc girls in real life fin me repulsive loll

Spongy is right, if you want a girl to be more desperate or clingy over you and one that isn't highly sought after, maybe lower your standards a bit. I'm not saying go for the whales or anything like that but spongy is right, you can still practice your game on them.

Online dating is brutal, and mostly people get rejected for totally arbitrary and weird reasons that have nothing to do with their worth as people. Most of the time it's not even personal. So this girl maybe wasn't into you. Better that you find out now, than waste 4 or 5 months trying to make something out of nothing. And she didn't string you along, she chatted with you to see if she liked you. The same as that fat girl (can't imagine why SHE wasn't into you).

Think about it in reverse. So religion and family might be really important to her. What if she made a joke about how vain body builders are? Or made a juicing joke? She's a whole other person in the world and she gets to choose who she hangs around with. So do you. This time it didn't match, but life is long. There's plenty of time and plenty of fish in the sea. You're what, 22? Don't be ridiculous.

did you not read that I tried that also? The fat girls these days are ust as deluded as the good looking ones. The girl in this post was also no beauty queen when i say she was one of the prettier ones I mean she didnt look like total shizz.

I;ve said it before and ill say it a million times I will die a virgin before I go out with someone I'm not attracted to.

Like I sai int he original post..this example was one example of what happens on a reg basis on this site..and I was ticked off bc this girl was one of the prettier ones...but this happens with the dog ugly ones too...I don't respond to super og ugly ones though just the regular dog ugly ones occasionally. Not gonna go out on a date with them though i be uncomfortable, and i'm pretty cheap

girls dont age well lol

This is nasty.

That's why you need to approach girls in real life and join some social classes, girls in real life get approached a lot less than girls on dating websites.

I do talk to them but they usually arent interested. I have buit a rapport with this cute girl at costco(cute not stunning and a lil chubby lol), an we talk when i go in there..but she's always busy. I also talk to a lot of other female workers at placces I go to...however I am not built for the cold approach stuff lol...I'm not smooth. IDK if girls get approached less manseems every girl is screwing some lucky bastard.