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Turns out I could edit it. Now no one will waste their time reading one of my personal diary entries.

Last edited by ntgrl on 12 Oct 2012, 4:13 am, edited 1 time in total.

With all due respect, does it really take a dissertation in diary style to convey that message?

i thought the details were helpful.

You're a nice guying trying to get that girl, cathylynn?

With all due respect, again_with_this, why not just ignore the thread instead of being rude as well as trying to provoke people?


Does it somehow make you less miserable?

I was being facetious. Once again you've jumped to a conclusion. Quick! Call Hyperlexian!

For once, try to control your emotions and over presumptive nature. You've dismissed me before for not liking my opinion, and it's not very nice of you. Examine your own rudeness.

...except meems is absolutely right.

I commented on the long winded nature of the post, and wondered how all that is supposed to help the nice guy get the girl.

Cathylynn retorted she liked the details.

I just thought that was kind of funny, since it was somewhat irrelevant.

But I'm a nasty miserable person because of this? My intention was not to put anybody down. And I wonder if you're upset, BlueMax, because I questioned your desire for a group one step below Mensa.

Please, don't let misunderstanding and personal emotion get in the way.

AWT, I have no idea why you're miserable, the way you behave on this forum isn't the why, it's just evidence of you being miserable.

Also, every time someone disagrees with you, you accuse them of having an uncontrollable emotional reaction... have you ever thought maybe it's not everyone else with the problem, but that you maybe need to take a step back and figure out how to control your own emotional reactions?

And I don't understand what Hyperlexian has to do with this.

I'm more than happy to examine myself, and I welcome criticism. In your case, however, I recall you gave me a hard time because you didn't like my opinion. When I tried to explain it to you, you dismissed it as "cool story bro," wouldn't even hear me out. Even here, you assume my intent was hostile, when it wasn't.

If you think my tone comes across negatively, I appreciate you sharing. I won't dismiss you. However, when you write me off, assume the worst about me, and make incorrect assumptions about my intentions, then yes, I feel you're responding emotionally, as you did in that post...something about never dating and being a spinster.

As for Hyperlexian, that was more facetiousness. Perhaps you can't pick up on it. But I'm not gonna elaborate on Hyperlexian, it was a joke. Why do you feel so bothered by my mannerisms, and why do you assume I have ill intentions? Why do you label me as "miserable"?

It can be rather difficult to produce a condensed version of something that hits all the important points.

Oh, now I remember. You're still bothered that I didn't agree with you repeatedly asserting that I was wrong to say I didn't think I could see myself ever getting married? And Hyperlexian asking you to cut it out when you repeatedly threw the term "spinster" at me. I see.

Hey, maybe you should let it go. It was months ago. It was an insignificant comment and it has nothing to do with me commenting on your nastiness in this thread.


I'm not going to reply to you any further, you are nasty and unpleasant and that's not my problem.

I hope somehow you can figure out what's really behind your nastiness and deal with it instead of bringing it to the forum. Good luck.

Thanks for your reply, and you're right, we're derailing this thread.

The reason I mentioned that post is because it's the last time I recall interacting with you, and I recall this same behavior. I appreciate your thoughts and observations on how you perceive me. Please understand, however, that my intent was not to be nasty, even if that's how you comprehended it. And I feel for you to make such snap judgments is indeed emotional and, frankly, inappropriate. I'd be happy to discuss any differences or points of contention, but I feel once again you're just dismissing me. You don't like the way I responded, therefore I'm miserable, therefore it's fact, therefore I can be dismissed.

I don't want to be that sort of person who simply dismisses someone I disagree with, and I'm highly critical of anyone who feels such behavior is appropriate.

I wish I never posted this. If I could delete it I would. Thank you to those who supported me. I tried to relay a positive story.

How nice guys get girls is by being nice.

I guess if I was going to post anything I could have just left it at that.

I have no idea why someone would take the time to either read something that did not interest them or take the time to comment on it. Perhaps humiliating people is fun for them? Not every post will interest every person. I don't think what I wrote was offensive. So I cannot find any reason why it would warrant any level of rudeness,

I shared something that was rather personal to me. It is the second time I have done this and it backfired on me in the last year. Once the information I shared privately was mentioned in a public way that was also inaccurate. Now someone feels compelled to ask why I wrote something akin to a diary entry. I suppose if the question was one that really needed to be asked a pm would have worked.

It will be a long time (if ever) that I share anything here again.

ntgrl, please don't be offended and please don't delete your post.

By all means, keep it up, as it may indeed help others.

My initial post was just an observation of the very long, drawn out way in which you presented your information, but it may help others. I'm sorry this thread was derided by a whole separate discussion.

So I'd like to apologize to you if you misunderstood my initial post. More importantly, I'd like to apologize if the thread got off topic. But please don't use the direction of this thread as an excuse not to post anything.

I am truly sorry.

It wasn't an observation, it was a rude passing remark. Even in your "apology" you are only sorry that you felt misunderstood or that the author had to change the OP because of YOU, not because you are genuinely sorry. You need to figure out what an apology actually is before you dish them out.

And by the way, responding to everything that doesn't perfectly match your aggressive viewpoint with emotional reactions, then declaring the other person responds with emotional reactions is....projection. Look it up. Whatever it is you need to work out, I hope you work it out. But trying to make others out to be more broken won't get you any closer to being fixed, and misunderstanding everyone else doesn't mean they are misunderstanding you.

ON TOPIC:
ntgrl, I didn't see the original post. But don't feel bad for putting it up. I think some people could have read it and taken away something useful from it. I kind of know what it is about and from knowing that it would have been a shining example as to why some of the guys shouldn't think certain behaviour that is promoted in this board is the only way to go about love and dating.

Besides, it's good to have something positive in here in a while we need more positive threads! Well, at least more threads that START positive