Where can I find a less competitive place to date.

Page 1 of 2 [ 20 posts ] Go to page 1, 2 Next

Previous topic | Next topic

atdevel
Pileated woodpecker

Joined: 16 Jun 2012
Gender: Male
Posts: 194

12 Oct 2012, 3:44 pm

I'm 20 and in university. It's really competitive

Maerlyn138
Velociraptor

Joined: 2 Nov 2005
Age: 54
Gender: Male
Posts: 499
Location: The Island of Misfit Toys

12 Oct 2012, 5:31 pm

Try online. Seriously, it's a lot easier on the self esteem. All you have to do is message people. If they write back, cool! If they don't, move on. Try to find some common interests, proceed to a nerve wracking first date, don't screw it up, and possibly start a relationship/boning session.

_________________
We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams.

Aspie score: 159 of 200 NT score: 64 of 200

DialAForAwesome
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Oct 2011
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,189
Location: That place with the thing

12 Oct 2012, 6:59 pm

IMO, online is even MORE competitive than real life because everybody online expects perfection.

I have no real advice to give you. Maybe try places like libraries? But if your libraries are anything like mine, there's a bunch of hoodrats.

_________________
I don't trust anyone because I'm cynical.
I'm cynical because I don't trust anyone.

wtfid2
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 9 Aug 2012
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,712
Location: usa

12 Oct 2012, 7:21 pm

online is s**t.

_________________
AQ 25

Your Aspie score: 101 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 111 of 200
You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits

Kaufmancab51
Pileated woodpecker

Joined: 2 Sep 2008
Age: 33
Gender: Male
Posts: 180
Location: Rochester, New York

12 Oct 2012, 11:43 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

online is sh**.

+1.

JanuaryMan
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 1 Jan 2012
Age: 41
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,359

13 Oct 2012, 9:17 am

Interest groups and extra curricular activities. Not the halls or dorms. You can try house parties I suppose as you will be drinking and feel more confident but if you're successful remember it might only be for that evening.

Keyman
Velociraptor

Joined: 23 Feb 2012
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 443

13 Oct 2012, 9:25 am

Avoid avenues that emphases NT-related values.

thewhitrbbit
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 30 May 2012
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,124

13 Oct 2012, 10:08 am

Maerlyn138 wrote:

With the average site running male:female ratios between 5:1 and 10:1, online dating is ruthless to the male.

There are no non-competitive places to date, unless your into desperate women.

You can slightly better the odds by finding female dominated things.

ValentineWiggin
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 15 May 2011
Age: 38
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,907
Location: Beneath my cat's paw

13 Oct 2012, 12:36 pm

thewhitrbbit wrote:

Maerlyn138 wrote:

With the average site running male:female ratios between 5:1 and 10:1, online dating is ruthless to the male.

There are no non-competitive places to date, unless your into desperate women.

You can slightly better the odds by finding female dominated things.

Source?

This seems wildly-inaccurate, but I could be wrong.

_________________
"Such is the Frailty
of the human Heart, that very few Men, who have no Property, have any Judgment of their own.
They talk and vote as they are directed by Some Man of Property, who has attached their Minds
to his Interest."

Keyman
Velociraptor

Joined: 23 Feb 2012
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 443

13 Oct 2012, 12:47 pm

You are free to advice on sites that have the opposite ratio..

ValentineWiggin
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 15 May 2011
Age: 38
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,907
Location: Beneath my cat's paw

13 Oct 2012, 1:08 pm

Keyman wrote:

You are free to advice on sites that have the opposite ratio..

Was this to me...?

I just wondered what rabbit was referring to with those numbers.

Kurgan
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 6 Apr 2012
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 4,132
Location: Scandinavia

13 Oct 2012, 1:21 pm

The gender ratio isn't that bad:

http://www.quora.com/Online-Dating/What ... nd-OKCupid

However, even though there are some pretty girls on online dating sites, most girls there are probably a 4 rater than a 5.

Keyman
Velociraptor

Joined: 23 Feb 2012
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 443

13 Oct 2012, 1:49 pm

It's not only the ratio in itself. It's also about the interest to actually engage.

Maerlyn138
Velociraptor

Joined: 2 Nov 2005
Age: 54
Gender: Male
Posts: 499
Location: The Island of Misfit Toys

13 Oct 2012, 2:52 pm

whatever, then go to a bar, or a high school or a book club or some s**t, who cares.

_________________
We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams.

Aspie score: 159 of 200 NT score: 64 of 200

Fnord
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 6 May 2008
Gender: Male
Posts: 60,951
Location:

13 Oct 2012, 2:59 pm

atdevel wrote:

I'm 20 and in university. It's really competitive

Try doing volunteer work through a women's prison.

Some have re-entry programs for non-violent offenders.

_________________
The mere fact that science may not yet adequately explain an object, event, or experience does not mean the immediate explanation should automatically default to a conspiratorial, extraterrestrial, paranormal, or supernatural cause.

Stalk
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 19 Jul 2012
Age: 47
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,157

13 Oct 2012, 4:38 pm

my experience with meetup.com

the ratio was 2:3 male to female ratio

The thing about meetup.com is, it appears if you are a foreigner in your own city then you sign up. I was the only local in the group. Of course everyone wanted to know why don't you have any friends.

In some ways it felt more like hookup.com/friendswithbenefits.com for some people that I observed. I went in with the idea of making new friends, there seemed to be a dating, one night stand hookup undertone going on.

Page 1 of 2 [ 20 posts ] Go to page 1, 2 Next

Jump to:

Where can I find a less competitive place to date. Post Reply New Topic

Where can I find a less competitive place to date.