Reading a guy wrong

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Hi,
I go to a congregation where there are several nice people to talk to. One of them is a handsome guy in my age range who has an adorable girlfriend who is just as sweet as can be. However, I notice that every week when it is lunch time after service, he seems to come sit next to me and strike up a conversation when his girlfriend is not around. I like this guy a lot and if he was not going out with the other person, I would go out with him. However, I don't think he is interested since he is with the other cute girl. Is he flirting or just interested in being casual friends? I don't get it.

Either way, I am being very careful

Has he specifically said that the girl is his girlfriend? If not simply ask about it, say something like "hey you and (girls name) a thing?" next time your talking together. Remember be casual about it.

If he has or does acknowledge her has his girlfriend, just expect hes just interested in being friends.
If he doesn't acknowledge her as his girlfriends, then I say go for it!

I had asked her about and she told me that they are dating. However, he keeps talking to me when she is not around. It's very strange.

Well its very important that you hear him acknowledge their relationship. Because he could just be trying to be friendly, but if he says something different than her then he could be seeking more than just friendship.

I think it is just a friendship too. However, I would not mind going out with him.

I think he's looking for sex. He might think that you'll give him sex with the hope that he'll break up with her. If you would, maybe he would break up with her but your relationship with him will be just for sex and nothing else. Time will pass, then they'll get back together and you'll be on the outside looking in......OR.......he thinks he's getting dumped real soon and needs someone to be with right away to ease the pain. Once the pain goes away, you'll be getting dumped. If I were you, I'd stay away from this chowderhead.

^^^ Holy assuming-the-worst, Batman!

you might want to join them both when they're sitting together and ask how long they've been together just in conversation. Don't assume anything... you could either be taken advantage of OR miss out on a great person... you won't know until you ask. If it's just friendly conversation, I'd consider asking them BOTH.