again_with_this wrote:
starryeyedvoyager wrote:
Yes, exactly. I've just never thought about it that way, and it makes perfect sense. Can't blame a man for trying, and I'd personally see it as a compliment if nothing else if I got hit on in a nice and charming manner.
So when a man hits on you and you tell him you're not gay, you won't feel any awkwardness whatsoever if it's a guy you work with or have to see on a daily basis?
This is one of the few questions I can proudly and honestly and answer with yes, because that has happened years ago while I was working in a church doing my civilian service. Well, the guy didn't work there as in: he got paid, but he came there as a volunteer to help regularly. Was actually kinda weird because it was a black guy from New York who moved here because of one of his former boyfriends, and he stayed after it didn't work out (I think his name was Kenny iirc). First time I met him he hit on me quite directly. While I did think it was weird, I told him I wasn't gay, and he said something akin to "Oh, no problem, just thought I'd test you out right away." And at least for me, there was nothing awkward to it, and in fact, we got along quite well together until I was done with my work there. I haven't seen him again after that, but I heard he moved back to the US a few months after I quit working there. So yes, he didn't hit on me in a bad way, and I did actually feel quite flattered because from an objective point of view, he was an attractive man with a very cheerful spirit and always a smile on his face... was almost contagious. Makes me actually a little sad that I didn't undertake any efforts to stay in contact with him, he was really a nice guy and it wouldn't have hurt at all to know someone living in NYC that could be a contact there.