So I guess I'm doomed

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I hate oral sex giving and recieving. It is a HUGE turn off for me! I find it disgusting. And this is based on me not anyone elses opinions or how I was raised or whatever. I hate that so many people assume...negative things like that. "you must have a low sex drive" "you probably hav a low sex drive" Um no I don't actually kinda high I just have no interest in anyone private in my mouth nor anyone's mouth/tongue on in my privates.

Do you fellow wrong planters mainly aspies also think I am doomed? Doomed to be cheated on and or divorced? Or just out right never married? It's hard for me to find someone as is for other reasons.

I also hate how some people assume I don't make this clear to men in the begining. I do! They lie...
"It doesn't matter to me" "I don't need it" "Intercourse is good enough" "No big deal oral leads to vaginal anyway"

So what do you people that date, havw dated, married or have been married think?

I was content in my marriage (until she disappeared)... she refused all oral sex activity but was content with genital/hand sex... Hey - I'll take it!

(I was far more concerned about the severe infrequency of sex...)

Only hand/mainly hand?

I need intercourse to be satisfied. Think it's a curse. My grand parents are old and still do it. Wish I didn't want sex at all.

I should've said either masturbation and/or intercourse. What's wrong with enjoying sex with your partner?

I can understand revulsion when it comes to oral sex - especially if you've ever been forced into it or had a terrible experience with it. Maybe some experimentation under favourable circumstances may change that in time with a patient partner... but most men would be damned GRATEFUL to have a wife who enjoys frequent sex with him! Gad... my wife was, "Not this month, dear, I have a headache."

The act to me is disgusting period. Even before I ever tried it. I only tried it because I was pressure to. No amount of goodness can make it not gross to me. I reall want someone that doesn't like it or honestly doesn't mind going without it.

Most women play the role til she is married then she shows her true colors... Most men fall for that. Most men are turned off by honest women.. Back to Haven posting I guess.

I'll say it again, lots of men would be damned GRATEFUL to have a wife who enjoys frequent sex with him - even without oral!


...c'mon guys - chime in, here!

yess, libido differences are frustrating, everybody feels guilty and frustrated and yuck, haaate
I think specific act reluctance/boundaries is something you really should be able to establish with a good partner. There should be a focus on making everybody happy and if you're with someone who can't get off without making you do something the would be really upsetting, I don't think they're the one. Also, I think because you're not expecting them to do something you wouldn't do and being upfront I think you're being excellent. Some sex acts have importance in our culture that the reality just doesn't justify.
I totally see how that could be frustrating and limiting though, it's a limiting factor and it probably doesn't crop up until you've already invested time/emotion. I think the older you get, the less bj insistence you'll find but I'm not sure if it's an age thing or a generational thing so...idk

I really hope you'll find somebody who suits you sexually and etc.

It has a lot to do with popular culture. "Some sex acts have importance in our culture that the reality just doesn't justify. " Totally agree with that. Too bad more men aren't honest about it in the very beginning.

I think most men are only greatful for that after they are married and feel trapped.

Get married and you'll never have to do oral sex again.

Jeez - whadd'o I gotta' do to convince you? Propose?

Haha funny

Wish I could get married so easily. Also dear troll you missed the whole worry of cheating and divorce. Nice try.

So cynical...

Try not to let the men in your past ruin it for all the others - not everyone is porn-addicted and obsessed with oral sex!

C'mon - there's gotta' be some other men here to back me up on this! Where are y'all? Banned??

I'd be ok with a girl who didn't like oral if she like frequent vaginal.

I wasn't a good good receiver of oral sex. I have never enjoyed it so far. I have enjoyed it little to give it to the right partner. But it depends on my mood I guess libido, if she can make me super horny then I will give it.