I'm tired of being single and ready to start dating

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I am 31 years old and I have never had a chance to meet and have a special someone. Although I have met other guys who appear to like me, they seem to have a short attention span with me when some other pretty face comes around. Then they pay attention to her and ignore and shut me out. I mean, I don't know what I am doing wrong.

It is something I am saying?

Am I sending off weird vibes?

I finally put some information into a dating site the other day and I have decided to see what happens.

I am tired of it as well...it is hard to know what you are doing wrong sadly.

Best of luck to you

maybe what you should do is instead of waiting for someone to like you, you should just find a guy you like and ask him out. Sure you wont know if they like or not yet but the fact that you made the first move could be enough to get them thinking about you.

From your other posts I gather you have a solid spiritual foundation (ie, you attend church). 1 of the things I've learned about online profiles is that it's very much 'they honor me with their lips but their hearts are far from me'. When a profile states unwavering faith and their interests include Happy Hour the equation is unsolvable. When I've written messages and curtailed the monologuing with the few profiles I did consider, as soon as I mentioned "The 'J' word" the silence would practically vacuum my eardrums.

My major gripe with church is that they celebrate marriage and parenting and give no useful instructions on how to achieve those, at a church I formerly attended they hosted a 'singles' ministry (with the express intent that the singlehood be permanent) that was overseen by a married pastor.

I wouldn't call it a weird vibe, though from what I observe on my campus is the obvious eligible single ladies project a "no time for you" vibe to me

If previous poster is right about your faith maybe you could find a church with an active social group(Im not religious yet I could tell you where to find a group of single christians with 1/2 phone calls(group organisers have made sure that I have their number and they send me text messages/fb messages when the activity isnt too religious...)) it shouldnt be too hard.


If you are trying online approach the males that you think you could hit it off with(waiting for others to approach you doesnt usually work, regardless of your gender)

I find it almost impossible to find a girlfriend..too many things in the way..no1 Aspergers does not make it easy if you have interaction problems and dont drink or have friends, where do you start?
Would love to find a nice understanding girl..but not that many around i'm afraid! also i am muslim so that tends to put people off i am 27yrs old i have never had a girlfriend yet....and no not funny just dam frustrating lol.

When I was 34 I had the same thoughts. I was "ready to love again".

Now I wish I could go back in a time machine and warn myself. You know it's not easy, wishing I were dead, ending up curled up in a ball in the garage, panic attacks, anxiety, partial starvation, moving 9 times in 5 years, job losses, losing what little social life and network I had that took years to build, a trail of lost and abandoned equipment on both US coasts, and finally a lasting lesson that leaves me looking at every woman knowing 100 percent that if she was "the one", I'd still ruin it and have her wanting me dead and hating my guts even when that's the 100 percent opposite result I was after.

Yeah, I would go back to when I was like 26 or 27 and try to tell myself not to even try it. Find something else to have some kicks, like a weird kinky habit, nice and embarrassing too, or go find a cause where staying alive is more important than love and getting laid. Anything but what happened. If I got plopped back permanently to being 34 and told by the angel/devil/whatever : "Everything that happened before will happen again, OR you can go to prison or wander a desert, get lost on an island, whatever else" I would choose else.

If you survived this long, you can survive longer. Go find a freak flag and use that for your kicks, or "hire" a date if you have strong "needs". Unless you cured AS, don't make the mistakes I made.

are you a woman who has never had a boyfriend?

Yes, I have never had a chance to have a boyfriend.

For anyone to answer the questions you asked we'd probably need to know more about you heh. Or actually know how your dates go to answer the whole "am I doing something off-putting?" question.

and your 31? well i'm almost 25 and never had a girlfriend, never been in a relationship, generally it feels more surprising, shocking for a woman who is still single by a certain age because i like to feel women have more opportunities because they don't have to initiate anything, i'm sick and tired of people arguing that men with balls have more options, choices, but women veto, they do the choosing, not the men

Me too and I am 20. I've never really had a boyfriend.

And is the profile working? (OP)

i really would rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all