Harder than I thought :::::(

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So i started rhe thread 'need advice desperately'
Then 'we have broken up'

Now this thread, i miss him something dreadful
i thought i could cope just being friends, but i am longing to be with him ::(
I had a guy ask me out yesterday and i reluctantly said ok,
But then my female friend invited me to a girls nyt so
I told th guy about that and then told him i wasnt ready to c a guy at th moment as i am still devestated.
Its 1 AM here and i woke up with a startle and went to 'see if my ex was ok'
But obviously he wasnt in th house, it was just a weird 'dream' thingie.
we have only chatted once on FB since we broke up and i was th one who started th chat and it was a good chat just talking about what wev been up to ect and he would do smiley faces but i miss the 'love hearts, flowers,and especially the I LOVE U'
I wonder if he misses ME as much as i miss him :::(
I dont know whether to ask him if he wants to go out for lunch as a 'friend'
Or give him space.
He said he still wants to hang out, but when we were BFandGF we were always holding hands or hugging, we just couldnt keep away from eachother,
And so i dont know what we would do if we met up again, cos not holding hands or hugging will be SOOOO hard, but if we do, it will mess with our emotions, u know what i mean?

i think of him litteraly every minute
When a sad or romantic song comes on i break down (
What to do what to DO!!

As an NT, all I can say is he's definitely still thinking about you and cares for you. The best thing to do is write him an e-mail telling him what you are feeling. Us NT's need to know this as it helps us make decisions that affect our future. Communication is the key word, so tell him you miss him and you'd like to have lunch and talk.

I'm sure he'd be more than happy to do that for a "friend".

Not at all. Give it a try ... what do you have to lose?

as an Aspie male, I realize how difficult we are to deal wth. Aside from the confusing verbal and nonverbal communication, I tend to think more black and white when it comes to these kind of things. I didn't read the break up thread, and I will look at what it says in a minute.
Be very aware though that he may be saying that he wants to hang out with you when he really feels that it's time to move on. Can't speak for all Aspies in this regard, but I would need my time and space after a break up.

Also, try Colton's advice. It really could not hurt to ask.