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billiscool
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06 Nov 2012, 1:03 am

I been thinking about this for the last 30 minutes and here the truth: whether or not aspie women can get dates easy isn't going change my luck with the ladies. Even if every single aspie women were single that is not going make women suddenly fall in love with me. Men here shouldn't focus so much on ''how easy it for women'' but try to better themselves like I am.
I really been trying to get my conversation skill better, I shaved, I took a shower for the first time (ok just kidding about that).
I am really doing the best I can to meet and talk to ladies.
I still believe women can get date easier than men, That just what I believe.
Men here just try to better yourself, yes it suck that women can stay the same and all the mumble jumble.
just focus on yourself.



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06 Nov 2012, 1:46 am

The confliction I have is, I can change to better myself and what not in say hygiene or habit but I have a hard time knowing what I can keep for myself as in being myself and what I should not be so open about etc.



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06 Nov 2012, 1:57 am

Agreed.

Not necessarily that women have it easier, but that even if they do, self-improvement is still the way to go.

An unsuccessful guy can put his energy into one of two things, but only one will produce any positive results. Nursing a grudge against women for supposedly having it easier, or learning how to make himself more appealing to them.

It's kind of a case of "do you wanna be happy, or do you wanna be right?"

I think it's also important to remember that, even if women do have the advantage in the dating world that so many guys think they do, this does not make them crappy people. They're not the ones who created the current set of "rules" and expectations surrounding dating, bitterness against them is misdirected.

I don't think it's possible to determine whether either gender really does have it harder. Better to acknowledge that each faces their own challenges; some similar, some so different that members of the other gender won't ever fully understand.


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07 Nov 2012, 11:45 am

Tsproggy wrote:
The confliction I have is, I can change to better myself and what not in say hygiene or habit but I have a hard time knowing what I can keep for myself as in being myself and what I should not be so open about etc.


Never change your true self. That will come out adventually anyway. Hygiene is something worth changing. It does not define you as a person but it is just a healthy habit. Learning how to hold conversations is a positive life skill that is not just for the purpose of meeting women but will serve you well in many areas of your life. But trying to pretend away personality traits is only going to make the girl like you until you let your gard down then dump you because you are now not the guy she fell for. Not to mention you will miss out on those of us out here who find many of the Aspie traits charming if you try to hide them.



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07 Nov 2012, 12:17 pm

billiscool wrote:
I been thinking about this for the last 30 minutes and here the truth: whether or not aspie women can get dates easy isn't going change my luck with the ladies. Even if every single aspie women were single that is not going make women suddenly fall in love with me. Men here shouldn't focus so much on ''how easy it for women'' but try to better themselves like I am.
I really been trying to get my conversation skill better, I shaved, I took a shower for the first time (ok just kidding about that).
I am really doing the best I can to meet and talk to ladies.
I still believe women can get date easier than men, That just what I believe.
Men here just try to better yourself, yes it suck that women can stay the same and all the mumble jumble.
just focus on yourself.
i could use a shower and shave myself ..but i brushed my teeth today LOL 8)


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07 Nov 2012, 12:27 pm

Yeah at the end of the day other people getting dates in no way affects your ability to get dates, in that case it's all down to you.
Good show, Bill :) self improvement FTW. Even if you don't get dates after you improve you will at least feel a lot better about yourself which is bound to draw something positive in.