Failing my classes because no girl is interested in me, help

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I can't concentrate on my schoolwork, girls only like dumb guys, even smart girls. What can I do?

Take antidepressants, they lower your sex drive and make you worry less about useless stuff like this. (sorry bro)

Did you go to school to get an education or to get laid?

If you did have a girlfriend you would be even more distracted by her than you currently are by the fact that you don't have one.

Not having a relationship when you're trying to study is good. It means you can focus 100% on passing your exams.

probably both.

Then he's likely to fail at both.

I had to re-read the title...

...you're failing because you don't have a girlfriend??? Like you're trying to study but can't concentrate because you're so lonely and love-starved you can't stop staring at every girl in the room??

That's seriously unhealthy... talk to your doctor/counselor - some sort of antidepressant may be in order, although coming to terms with your own head would be better still.

It's normally the other way round, isn't it?

It's a common belief that people often fail because they do have girlfriends. In fact, that is one of the supposed advantages of single gender schooling: to avoid the distraction caused by the opposite sex, and to allow you to focus solely on your studies.

Well, I agree that a physical is in order here, but I also want to say that I went to a single-sex school (back in the Pleistocene era), and I was pretty distracted all the time by how much no-action I was getting...

I was gonna say just focus on your schoolwork and maybe you'll get a better job and thus all the girls you can handle.

Then I remembered that this is America. Everything is backwards here. Or are you in a different country?

I agree single sex can great as long as you choice in the matter. I want to an all boys school and I'm doing fine with the ladies now. More importantly I have a good education even though I grew up in a poor area.

What can you do?

Sit down, point your eyes toward your course materials, and keep them pointed there until the content of such stays in your brain.

You are failing because you are choosing not to do that, not because of what girls are or are not interested in.

First of all ,I recommend that you go see a therapist(preferably a shrink since they can prescribe medication) and stick to fapping.
Now consider this: The purpose of classes is to learn and NOT to pick up chicks! You need to look elsewhere for a gf. I recommend online dating. You need to get a hobby and/or something on the side to get interested in and I also recommend some kind of social activity to get involved with where there is no pressure to hook up.

I don't buy Who_Am_I's claim that you are consciously choosing to be distracted by girls. I have dealt with similar problems before where getting a gf/getting laid becomes a full fledged obsession where your brain locks on and will not let go until this goal is met. Trouble is, when you obsess about something like this it only makes you look desperate and that is exceedingly unattractive.

I suspect that perhaps part of the reason you are feeling so desperate and hyperfocused on finding a gf is to prove to the world that you can have one. What ultimately will work is when you find a girl who is actually attracted to you. So your task is try to figure out where(& how)to find such a person.

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Van Wylder R disagree with this comment.



Serious bit: OP, you're not Van Wylder. So if you're in college I would consider studying from home via online courses (approved ones, do research on this) or returning to an academic field once you have conquered your problem or have sought out and had some real therapy. If you're a highschooler....just stick to the therapy part. This is something that is taking over your life and can potentially ruin your future.

i went to school to get laid an i could empathize with you man. I would sit in my classes staring at all of the girls and not paying attention. When they wore shorts i would stare at their legs or painted toes..i was a total creeper. hey it was the only way id ever see girls. I would join study groups or ask girls to hang out but it was to no avail. I didnt care about my classes bc in the end I figured..who gives a f**k if i pass school if girls wont f**k me? Thankfully i graduated with a 3.7. Part of the reason im planning on going to grad school is in hopes of meeting a girl also.

Comments like this are very common from the women here on WP and it makes me wonder...........Do women believe in free will more so than men do? It sure seems like it despite the fact that I have no data to back it up. You sure don't seem to know squat about the basic workings of the human mind.

Staring at your written course materials while you're distracted by other things is almost analogous to a computer getting *locked up*. The mental process required to focus and think about those course materials is on hold and sitting there in queue while the obsession is locked in and cannot be halted until certain conditions are met. It's a vicious cycle and a neurological feedback loop. JanuaryMan speaks the truth that this kind of obsession is at a critical time in your life where it could ruin your future by causing you to flunk out!

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