Wimminz.......

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....Why don't you be a little more obvious when you're interested in a male stranger? I am not talking about actually making the first move/approaching a guy. I am talking about sending out signs that are proverbially loud enough that he can pick up on them. When I first got interested in girls as a teen I "mustered the courage" to ask out girls that I was interested in but due to my impaired ability to perceive nonverbal cues I was not able to pick up on the fact that they didn't like me back. So I got rejected 8 times before I met my first gf through printed personals(I placed the ad and she responded to it).

What I don't get is how women only flirt with guys they aren't seriously interested in. When I was but a young lad I assumed that a girl who flirts with you is attracted to you and inviting you to make a move..............................I was wrong. That is why when a female stranger flirts with me, I brush her off cuz I assume that she is just playing with me. I have very loud body language and usually make it clear when I find someone attractive. I assume that someone who finds me attractive and notices me would do the same, but that just doesn't seem to happen. There are women who find me attractive. Not many, but they do exist. And these women always have extremely quiet body language.

And as I said before: I am most befuddled by women's attraction to men who are non single OR single+uninterested(in sex & relationships with women overall) whereas guys who are enthusiastically about sex and/or having a gf are presumed to be "desperate". Silly wimminz, they always want what they can't have.

I thought you wuz trollin'...

You know, I find it fun to flirt with someone I know isn't really interested but it's safe to do so because they're on friendly terms. Then comes along the one I really want to be with and I clam up... If I had that same "no big deal" cool confidence I had with friend-flirting - who knows?

I just hate how the object of affection causes me to feel like an insecure teenager again. Maybe the gals are going through the same thing? Chime in!

According to the title of a Popeye cartoon, they hadn't oughta drive.

But to answer your question, I think it has to do with shyness, and they give hints, rather than be explicit about their intentions.

What are the signs?

I wouldn't really know how to make it obvious that I liked someone, and even if I did, I'd be too worried about being rejected to make it obvious.

I met my boyfriend online.

I do tend to make it rather obvious. I am not very subtle. I just keep staring at him admiringly in a helplessly besotted way and smiling.

I think your complaint might be more about NT women than about Aspie women. Am I right?