I have seen a plethora of threads pertaining to attracting females (Well. This can apply for homosexual or Bisexual males too. Not certain about straight women or the likes though. I can only give the perspective of a male) "There must be some secret!" "Why can't women like us?" "What must I do?"
The answer is quite simple, really! Simply look to the pages of history. A certain type of person was always a magnet for those around them. People are attracted to those with qualities they do not have; Yet desperately desire. 'Tis why we turn to leaders - To the strong. Or the intelligent. We're drawn to people such as this. But it is more simple than this even. You do not need to be a leader, be strong or be intelligent you must simply..
Not give a damn.
Seriously.
Not even making a joke here.
Let's examine this for a moment. People complain that women love "bad boys". But why? Most bad boys are... apathetic. They care nothing about the labels of others. The taboos of society are something to be embraced, not shunned. When apathy pertaining to what others believe is achieved. This comes across as bravery at times. Learn to not fear danger. Train yourself to create your own image of yourself. No, this is not a diatribe of existentialism, as there are always external factors dictating affairs. Yet, to scoff at them and ignore them to continue on with your own ambitions and desires is to gain a certain level of power over these detractors.
However. Let us not confuse apathy with lethargy. Or apathy with negativity. Yes, negativity may be one of the paths to a level of apathy. But hide that away. It can exist underneath, but tame it. Channel it. If you're suicidal? Well, then what do you have to lose in life? You're going to kill yourself off anyhow? Why fear danger if you're suicidal? Something of a contradiction, no? Well, humans are walking contradictions but I'll spare you all the philosophy lecture.
Please note that I am not saying to become a sociopath or care nothing about the feelings or well being of others. Just care little of the perception of others.
25 Nov 2012, 2:13 pm
