Women seem to be attracted to guys with psychological disord

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Crazy to believe but true. I'm not necessarily referring to autism, but more like the type that make you unstable, such as certain panic disorders and whatnot or even really severe anti-social disorders. A lot of women are more attracted to said guys over the nice, clean-cut and well-rounded guys because they make their lives more exciting and think that they could heal these guys...plus a lot of these women tend to have their own psychological disorders that they're good at masking.

So if you do have a psychological disorder, you're in good company.

I wouldn't exactly call it "good", but otherwise, yeah, the gist of your message isn't really wrong to be frank.

It's a sweeping statement. I wouldn't know because I don't know all women's experiences. But, I also think everyone in the world has some sort of psychological disorder. It's also a matter of perception.

Woman date bad boys, crazy people and even creeps but they won't date the "nice guy"?

It sounds like an excuse on this forum to blame anyone BUT the nice guy.

In my experiences, women are not attracted to people they tend to view as nutjobs.

What constitutes a NICE boy, or girl?

A person's perspective.

I could say I am a nice girl. I don't kill animals, don't even eat them, I am generous, I am kind.

But I can also be bad. I can lose my temper easily, I can be selfish with my topics of conversation, I can isolate myself so much that it appears I don't care about anyone else, I can become obsessed with certain people from time to time, I refuse to go out of my way for most things, and I shout a lot when I am overwhelmed with something.

Not wanting to put myself down too much though, I am very quick at apologising when I know I stepped over the mark or if I hurt anyone.

I have psychological disorders I am 'not' very good at masking at all.....even if no one can tell which disorders I have they would still wonder what is 'wrong' with me. But yeah its not as though I specifically am into guys with mental disorders, however its certainly not a deal breaker...also Its somewhat easier to relate to people who get what its like to struggle with mental disorders rather than those who have no idea what that's like. Also I might point out clean cut guys are hardly always 'nice' or well rounded.

As for anti-social/sociopath types I certainly am not into that.

Also its ridiculous for anyone here to assume they know what 'all' women are attracted to or not attracted to and even attempt to pass it off as fact.

So that's why they like me.

I wouldn't say that that applies to all, or even most, women. But I will agree that there seems to be a small subset (it seems more women do this than men) who want to find some poor broken guy and fix him.

But that's extremely unhealthy. For both parties.

What the woman in that scenario really wants isn't for the guy to get better. What she wants is the ego gratification that comes from feeling like he is dependent on her. Makes her feel special, being someone's very own personal savior.

And, for the guy, it's far too easy to fall into the trap of letting someone else take care of you. It's a huge relief at first, feeling like you've found someone who really cares. But then you start putting all responsibility for your happiness on that one person. You start thinking it's her job to make you feel better, to help you deal with s**t. And that's the quickest way to ensure that you never learn to care for yourself.

Not that the same thing doesn't happen with the genders reversed. It just seems less common.

because women are walking psychological issues.

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As a women with Asperger's I could never understand that about NT women. Do they really think they can "fix" or "change" a bad boy? Don't they know you can't change a guy's problems, only he can, and only if he really wants to?

I may not be perfect, and in the past I've been a real witch sometimes, but generally I'm really a total goody-two-shoes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, what do I do? My idea of a wild night is to drink real coffee instead of warm tea and then dance like the characters in A Charlie Brown Christmas.

There are women out there who make it a point to date nobody but the "bad boy" types. You know, the ones who happen to have something like ASPD (Anti Social Personality Disorder) and such.

Some women just aren't into genuinely nice guys.

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SilkySifaka, what a refreshing answer. To acknowledge your imperfections (we allegedly all have them on this forum?) and not just pass the blame on the someone else.