New Years Party Tonight...Nervous and Hopeful

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I've been invited to a New Year's Party, and I'm terribly nervous. I'd so very much like to meet someone there. How marvelous and romantic a story that would be...."We met on New Year's Eve."

I just hope it's not a wash. I've scoured the list of people confirmed going, on Facebook, and basically everyone is either someone I know (and is already spoken for) or their FB profile photos shows them posing with some good looking guy, i.e. taken, again.

I just loathe going stag to these sorts of things, you know? You don't fit in anywhere, because couples talk to each other or other couples, and I wind up standing around just listening.

Thankfully there is snow all day, and ice forming over night, so I've got an easy out if things don't go well.

But my one hope is that, there is one girl on the list of invites, who doesn't appear to have anyone. Oh she looks beautiful, and she's studying medicine...how I'd love to be with someone so intelligent and ambitious.

If she's there, I'm going to be my best. I'm going to smile, and be enthusiastic, ask questions and listen, and try to be as charming and outgoing and appear as successful and worthy as I can.

Please God, let me find someone tonight. I'm so tired of being alone and lonely, and having no one to share all that I have to offer. I feel I'm creating a rich life for myself with all my work and my pursuits, but what is missing is, there is no one to enjoy those things with. I don't think I can stand another year of empty Valentine's days, and weekends alone and Thanksgiving meals with the old, divorced and forever single members of my family. It's time I started building my own life and family, and I pray it will begin tonight and that I may finally find The One at this party.

Good luck tonight, Brianruns10!

Have a great time tonight!!

holy s**t dude congrats!! !! That is awesome. One piece of advice though, don't go in there praying to meet someone because then your desperation will show and it will make it harder to meet someone. Also if you don't meet anyone you will feel insanely depressed by the end of the night. i sued to go to clubs with the sole purpose of kissing getting laid. By the end of the night, I was extremely depressed that no girls even danced with me while the other guys had about 10 girls or more dance with them throughout the night. Just look at this as an opportunity to GET OUT THERE and POSSIBLY MEET someone or network with other people. If you dont meet someone be happy you are GETTING OUT THERE..and KEEP GOING OUT...because you cant meet anyone in doors.

Deja vu, I feel like I've seen you make an almost identical post before lol. Anyways what wtfid said is great advice to follow, you can't put so much pressure on yourself or it won't work out. Don't look at the party as your one and only chance of ever finding anyone, just see it as a chance to go out and have fun, and hopefully get the opportunity to meet someone. Don't try to force anything .

I feel I must make the most of this opportunity, and put every pressure on myself to succeed at my goals. Because I'm 28 and never had a girlfriend, and I must change and break out of that. I sense that the window for me is closing quickly, and I must find someone soon.

So I've got to put on my best face, and be as charming, outgoing, confident, happy, smart and charismatic as I can, to hopefully win someone's affections tonight. And to myself all day I've been praying to god, "Please let me find someone tonight. I've got a lot of love to give, and I've looked for so long and tried so hard. Please, let me find her tonight."

Well the girl I was hoping would be there didn't come. She said she would, but maybe it was the weather. Anyways, I had a pretty good time I suppose. I try to keep myself busy at these things helping to clean up, and I brought home made ice cream which I served and people seemed to like. I chatted a bit too, but only with the guys. I'm too afraid if I talk to the women, their bfs and husbands will all think I'm being overly friendly. I don't want to give anyone any reason to dislike me.

As it would happen I was invited to another party, and I made an appearance there as well. More interaction. Tried my best to be social and outgoing. Again, no women at all who weren't already spoken for.

My god I'm so tired. I pray this year I find someone. I'd do anything for just three months. If the relationship goes goes sour, that's fine, at least I'd have known a little bit of companionship.

I'd do anything just to not have to come home to an empty house one more night, to fix one more meal for one, to sleep alone in my single bed. I'll give anything.

what woman were u hoping would be there? ask her out man!

You're right. I'm not gonna admit defeat just because she didn't show up. In fact, I message a mutual friend this morning about her, if she could fix us up (if she's indeed single).

I'm gonna go for it. This will be the last year I spend alone, that's for sure. I WILL find THE ONE.

If all else fails, theres always online dating websites.

And if that doesn't work out, you can always get a mail order bride

When all else fails, We can whip the horse's eyes.

brian's income is too low for a mail order bride and isnt that crap illegal or fake

It's neither, and he probably makes enough income.

All the "male order bride" services do is set him up with the foreigner. He'd go to whatever country, see if him and the girl get along and if the girl is willing to marry him, and yeah. Whether or not the women are honest in their intentions or just want a greencard or citizenship is unknown. But, statistically, international marriages have only a 20 or 30% divorce rate or something like that, so he'd probably have better odds than here. One last caveat is (supposedly) a lot of male order brides are ex-prostitutes, and that's why men in their community won't touch them.

As far as how it works, besides the greencard/citizenship, marrying a "loser" American might be better than marrying a, say, Russian man, who's probably much more likely to be an alcoholic or beat her. Lastly, sometimes values are much different overseas as to what's expected in a partner. "Self confidence" being the sole determining factor of a guy's worth often isn't the case in non-Westernized countries.

I'm cheering for you!

Let me know if you need any tips about asking her out. I've asked people out before, and while it's the scariest thing ever (scarier than spiders!) the rewards are amazing.

Dude, you're not even 30 yet. Chill out. You need to be open to just letting things happen. You should still try to be as charismatic and likeable as possible but be doing it to pull people towards you, rather than push for something. If you push too hard for someone you'll only end up pushing them away from you.

Also, only talking to men at the party is the worst strategy ever. How can you be able to converse with single woman if you can't even speak to the taken ones? Be charming and charismatic around them and maybe they will tell thier friends about you......