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Kaufmancab51
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06 Jan 2013, 2:26 am

This marks the second time that i've been used like a doormat by a woman. What the f**k. This is really starting to make me sick. The first time was with my first relationship. I try again for #2, and it's an on and off deal, where she jumps around the question of whether or not we are dating, and expects me to jump on a roller-coaster ride that involves her showing her affection when she feels like it. I'm not doing that s**t again. Twice now this has happened, and I cannot stand to be ran over like this again. I'm not letting it happen a third time. I am no woman's doormat.

I can't stand trying so many goddamn times to enter failure. I know that these failed attempts are only ways of learning what and what not to do, but I am very afraid of trying once again...



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06 Jan 2013, 2:43 am

Mind sharing a few more details? I don't know the story...



Kaufmancab51
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06 Jan 2013, 3:46 am

My second attempt at a relationship happened around christmas time 2011. A woman that i knew from high school (graduated year before me) had gotten out of a bad breakup with her ex, a former marine who had gone off and did his own thing, leaving her behind. So for most of 2012, we were talking on and off, went on a couple of dates in the early months of the year, and then i went away to finish up my first spring semester of college. At that time she expressed that she didn't want a relationship. Understood, we were still cool and on good speaking terms.

Summer time rolls around, and when I left for the fall, she started having feelings for me again. Again, on and off talking, but no time for dates (I was 30 minutes away from Rochester). She didn't make attempts and made excuses for herself. Just up until this past week of this post, I asked her the same question: "are we a couple?" She was dodging the simple yes/no and gave excuses, trying to dodge the question. I told her that we should just stay being cool as friends, which she agreed upon, but then something happened where she was sending me messages in a failed attempt to try and push me away (she REALLY failed trying to do it, it was too fake) by telling me not to text her anymore, that she would speak with other people.

That same night she sends me that message, I'm on the bus texting with one of my other female friends who said that this woman was trying to hit on her current boyfriend. Trying to solve the case, I think she was just out to have friends with benefits to hold in her pocket, because it doesn't make sense for someone to suddenly change attitude in 24 hours when they felt perfectly fine the day before.

Hence why I am done. I cannot let another female try and use me as a f*****g doormat. I'm sick of it.