Was this flirting?

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There's this girl I know from my Physics class who works at the local Wetzel's Pretzels. When I bought mine, she gave me a discount. I'm confused if that means she was flirting or not. My friend says she was, but I want to hear your imputs.

All depends on a couple of things:

1) How well do you know her in class?(does she talk to you or say hi at least without you starting a conversation.

2) Did you say something like "hey, arent you in my physics class" or did she recognize you?(Yes, This does matter)

3) Do you usually have attention from chicks just not understand why?(This usually has to do with your looks and not your personality unfortunatly. I dont care what any girl SAYS, a guy that LOOKS good will ALWAYS get attention first over a guy who SEEMS good, same goes for guys to girls(its primal instinct ))

4) Lastly, how is your friend with girls?(I know what you're thinking, what does that matter) If he's a casanova, he's probably got it right without needing the first 3 answered. If he's not really good with the ladies than you can probably throw his opinion out the window. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of guys who can see flirting when it happens AROUND them and NOT when its directed AT them(supposedly I have that special talent). It's just that when a guy isnt that great with girls, its risky at best to trust them.(would you trust garbage man with quantum physics? probably not!)

I wouldn't read anything into it on its own. Maybe be on the lookout for further signs, however.

A discount bagel probably is not her way of expressing her undying love for you, but I'd say it is a good sign. See if anything else comes of this.

only way to find out is to purchase more items at the store

and maybe ask her how she did on a class assignment or somemthing else like that.... aka-talk to her!! !! ! ack! (i know!)

If you interpret any sign of attraction as being a flirtation then you will not be far wrong, most of the time.

A discounted bagel may not be a declaration of love but if she gave this to everyone, then she would soon have to find another job.
It is a clear signal of intent. The ball is in your court.
If you wish to see this as flirtatious, then that's fine, continue appropriately ( of this i am not best to give advise - as already suggested: purchasing more items seems like a good idea.)
If you see this as 'just being friendly', then you have a potential new friend.
Either way, you seem to be in a win-win situation.

As Alex suggested, there are many articles & books concerning body-language on these issues.
My opinion is that they are certainly of interest to read, there are some very strong 'tells' which are of use.
But misinterpreting 'negative body-language' can lead to missed opportunites.
And some gestures commonly considered to be flirtatious you will often see displayed between groups of (hetero) women.
Anyway, as usual, i digress.

But to repeat, i really think it's up to you how to continue.
At the very least you have a source of discounted goods.
Enjoy.

I couldn't tell you. I never know when someone is flirting. I'm completely socially ret*d.

stop looking for "signs" in everything.. if you keep trying to figure the significance in every single detail you really going to need help, it will drive you crazy.. sometimes people are just being nice.. my first job was in a pizzaria, i would give discounts to the 'regulars' just as a way of saying thanks for the business they give us..

This could mean one of the two things, both good.

1.
She was simply being nice to someone she knows and respects, as opposed to likes romantically. On many levels, respect is more important than liking. She knows you from class, and thinks you're a good person. So when she saw you at her work, she decided to do something nice for you, and gave you a discount. In this case, just thank her when you see her in class.

2.
She's romantically interested in you, maybe even showing some signs in the process. However, like many aspies, you might have been oblivious to that, and just assumed she was simply being nice. So when she was you at work, she tried to butter you up by giving you a discount. It got you thinking about her, right? She was probably hoping you'll start paying more attention to the signs.

Yeah, well, there was a girl I knew from high school who gave me a free meal from her BBQ stand and we all know how that turned out. Er, well, I know. But the rest of you can probably surmise.