any women desperately want to get hit on but never do?

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*raises hand*

that's me! that blonde girl at the bar with perfect makeup on who dances so well and is always the only one who has to buy her own drinks.

also that geek at the electronics class who might as well not be there at all because there are chubby girls out there who wear no makeup and get all the help and chivalry from the nerds while i'm ignored.

isn't love great?

You ought to post here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5225842.html#5225842

Sour grapes make sweet wine.

Sorry. I know this might sound weird, and I could be entirely wrong.. but seeing as you say you're from the Baltics.. I have a hard time not imagining you being a gorgeous leggy blonde and maybe it's just that the guys in your country are just inured to it or something..

<--- Hopes he doesn't get lynched.

i'm not putting anyone down. be chubby or obese or arrogant or whatever. i don't care for other women's looks one way or the other but right now i'm obviously comparing becuz i'm thinking of an issue that invites comparing oneself with others of the same gender. it's not sour grapes, either. more like wonderment. i don't want to be chubby sweet god, i take care of my body, i exercise despite risking a huge migraine from it, so i'm just wondering how my inner values, strength and self-discipline are overlooked for ppl shoving chips into their face. but in the end, i exercise for myself, because if i don't, i feel even more like *** so i don't really care even if most guys are into soft girls who do nothing but sit on their asses and whine.

which is something that i don't do, btw, MXH, this forum is the only place on earth my problems have been discussed in 21 years of emotional torture. sry for bringing that up, i'm sure that makes me even less attractive than the women who whine on the regular just becuz they didn't get expensive enough gifts for valentines.

i'm not leggy, but i am blonde, and i dunno about the bland thing. most women here are actually brunette, some shade of potato peel and don't bother to dye. it's not a country of barbie dolls like most'd imagine AT ALL, it's more western here.

anyway, it's obvious most ppl will never relate to this, maybe as many as 99.9% of women, hence why i'm having trouble finding them IRL and am asking here.

I've heard that guys sometimes don't bother trying with the pretty blondes, because they know they're going to be shot down. They are scared of rejection. So sometimes ironically, it's the best looking girls who don't get 'hit on'

Well, if it helps any, I'm sure plenty of people here don't get hit on nearly as much as they would like.

I'm still new to it myself, but make sure and watch body language. No crossing of arms, slouching. Make sure to smile and look guys in the eyes whenever they look at you (Or look at them to try and get their attention.).
Of course, this might be obvious to you, already, and I might just sound patronizing. =/

Edit:

Not sure if you've done this, but you could try approaching them instead. Guys shouldn't have to be the only ones to approach people.

I've approached guys and gotten laughed at or the cold shoulder or ignored.
Thanks to my friends being there, there are often a lot of guys around us and since I'm obviously alone, they'd have no probs striking up a convo if they WANTED to, instead of not even looking at me and ignoring me. noone is EVER looking at me if they're guys, EVER.
I read body language well, and as I'm having fun with my friends, mine is never bad. if it was, one of the girls would've told me so a long time ago, they have always been giving me tips on makeup and borrowed me their clothes, did my hair etc.

Cafeaulait's the only one who's gotten it. i've known girls who are chubby and lazy and have a s*** attitude and they go like cupcakes, guys all around them trying to impress them with romantic gestures or just dying to hear about how hard it is for those girls, being oh so insecure about their bodies while sitting on the couch and shoving chips into their faces in front of their laptops :D:D no sympathy from me to those.