guys who can talk to women.......

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this is for the men here who can for the most part, are able to talk to women, and most women have postive reaction towards.
(not get label as creepy,weirdo) and are not shy or nervous around women. but yet at the same time, can never get date.
never get a girlfriend. and always just seen as friend, or as a ''nice guy'''

what are we? I mean how are we explain? we make no sense. we can talk to women. many women have little problems with us.
but yet, no dates.




(note: in past i've written that alot of young single women didn't like me, however they were mostly 19 years old at the gym,
since I've been talking to more range of women, I have gotten better result from single young women (23 and up)

that is easy to explain: anxiety coupled with non-verbal blindness.
i cannot for the life of me decode the secret language of flirting; even if i see someone trying to communicate nonverbally with me (a rare occasion), i translate it wrongly. i see no difference between "the look" and "a look that kills", simularly, "come hither" and "stay the hell away" look exactly the same to me; so for safety, i assume they mean the latter in both examples.

i am able to talk to women normally, as a friend, becouse i am able to "turn off" gender in my brain: women are the same as man in my social mind, which allows me to forgo that awkward feeling you might get from talking to a woman. (yes, i know there is a woman there, i'll admit that i check out 'the goods", but i just disconnect the body from the voice).

of course, this means that if i become actually interested in something more, i can no longer ignore gender, making me unable to speak to, or even near, that person again.

as a comparison: radjesh from the big bank theory: i am able to 'fake' being drunk around women to talk, but i cannot both keep the 'drunk' mental state and the desire for something more active in my brain together...

Most women don't wanna be friends with me as I'll talk about auto parts and Yellow Magic Orchestra with them.