I have never been rejected by the opposite sex

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...because I have never put myself in a situation where I'm likely to be rejected by the opposite sex. However, I have dozens of fantasy rejections in my head that may or may not have been based on actual body language, or reality. Can anyone else, my age or older, identify?

Is the name for this "avoidance on steroids" or what?

EDIT: Title sounds too heterocentric, so change to "gender attracted to."

It's not like one chooses when to fall in love. Sometimes it just "Happens".

One rejection, zero ended relationships, one current relationship (Obviously). And things are staying that way, if I have anything to say about it XD.

"Too heterocentric"? Really?

I have once. Though there are 4 women who believe they rejected me - I was trying to change them before I would "invest".

No need to hash failure out in your head.

I have, and I know there will be more times for further rejection. That's part of being a man.

I could see myself learning more about body language and learning to use it as an actor and then openly joking about why I never approach women. Say it's because of feminism. It might cause feminists to approach. The beauty of acting is you're not stuck in one role. You can try multiple different things in multiple venues. I wish I had started studying with an acting teacher sooner...

I can relate to that.

The ones you want are 9's and 10's? In general they dont approach dude - unless you got status.

Status is what aspie men ascribe to female behavior to make themselves feel better - It can be but no. Its a massively culturally induced fact to further our advancement with sex = money frames. I for example was in a club and a guy from the uk version of jersey shore was in - the 18 year olds were impressed with this douche. He was not a good looking male - he just had status and made a good story for her peers. I considered it a valuable filter and a great opener for the smarter ones who like me were rolling their eyes.

I didnt say status was the SOLE trigger for female attraction. Everyone gets attention when they are abroad. I once spoke to a class a novelty from a far away land. lol

understood about the looks thing but i doubt anyone meets the perfect personality bar.

Im not saying sell your soul for cash man.

There are many triggers and women dont judge looks half as much as we do.

Enjoy that fact. Looks open doors they wont often get you all the way through them.

The guy was a 100% Z lister. This was not a movie star. This is a guy on roids from newcastle.

I support extreme feminism and draconian sexual harassment laws to shut down all aggressive men except 9's and 10's, thus forcing average-looking women to do more approaching.

Yep. Me neither, until this past week and half, when I decided to start doing some approaching. And you know what? Getting rejected isn't actually that bad. The girls just move away slowly and start dancing with someone else, or by themselves or with their girl friends or something. I imagine if you tried outside of a bar setting it would be a bit more awkward... but probably still not that bad. I plan on trying this soon.

Seriously man, we overthink this s**t WAY too much. When I was out at the bar tonight, I witnessed this, which, to me, was absolutely inspiring: A guy, dancing alone, went up to a girl who was already dancing with another guy, started dancing with her pretty aggressively and suggestively, and got her away from the other guy. I have done this before with female friends who happened to be dancing with guys who they had said creeped them out, as a favor, but apparently this actually works with girls you are actually interested in too. I tried this tonight with some random chick, and it kind of worked! We started making out (for several minutes) and then for some reason she just stopped and went to some other guy... but whatever. I saw her with just about every dude at the bar tonight, to some degree. I've learned not to care that much anymore.