I don't get it.

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Back in August last year, I discovered that my straight friends thought I was straight and my gay friends thought I was gay. I have NO IDEA how I create this impression, and it's bothered me somewhat ever since. Has this happened to anyone else on this forum?

no - but people assume you are like them - its easier for them to relate!

Well, at least one of the groups is right then

More like...at least *I* know the correct answer! But honestly, I'm just not sure what to make of it. I don't want to scare off potential partners because they mistake my orientation...

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let them believe what they want to believe and don't make it your problem

At least your straight friends don't think you're gay and your gay friends think you're straight. Right?

No, he could be bisexual/asexual.

To my knowledge, I am straight. I have thought some guys were insanely hot, and I had a briefly intense friendship with a guy (probably what others would call dating but I wasn't sexually attracted to him) which has now settled down into a regular friendship, but I have only ever wanted to kiss girls.

Just write "STRAIGHT" on your forehead. That'll work!

I don't understand why this is bothering you? If you only want to be perceived as 'straight' maybe stop having 'intense friendships' with 'hot males'

Too bad you're not bisexual

Lol, I haven't had intense friendships with hot males. Perhaps I didn't say what I meant? By "Intense friendship" I meant we spent a lot of time with other, that's all; however, others may perceive spending lots of time with others as interest. But that was a recent event and we're talking about people who've known me for two years having held this opinion for that length of time, so that's why it was a bit more of a surprise. I think it bothers me because I don't understand how it happens. If I were giving off a big gay vibe, then surely my straight friends would have wondered. Conversely, if I was giving off a very straight vibe, then my gay friends wouldn't have thought I was gay. So logically I must be giving postive straight and gay vibes at the same time, which doesn't make sense.

Good one!

Dont let it bother you. I get the same thing because I am often not interested in going out to bars to chase tail.

I'm pretty sure sexuality-based "vibes" don't exist. Or if they do, they're either a) due to stereotypes, and/or b) behavior that seems to suggest attraction to certain gender(s). It could be that you showed a lack of interest in either gender, making you something of a blank slate in their eyes and easy to project identities onto?