Outrider wrote:
And if she leaves for being gay, that means she was never truly attracted to me, never can be, never will.
At least if I remained friends and she broke up with Chad McNewGuy, I still have a chance in the future once again.
I did have one girlfriend that broke up with me got back together with me once again a few months later when we were 'just friends', that can never ever happen with a gay female.
Or, if she's gay and turns out to be bisexual, as was the case with someone I knew, they 'would have' dated me when they were gay but could only feel attracted to women, by the time they realized they were bisexual, they weren't interested in me and was not interested in dating 'anyone' at the time, and then a week later she falls for a male friend.
I was in the exact same position as this guy - someone she initially only saw as a friend, both aspies, both male, and yet he ended up with her and I didn't, when one of us made the effort and the other didn't.
All because she was sexually confused...
They are now engaged, mind you.
The ultimate insult - him being a male was the precise reason I was rejected.
But yes, you're right, it's not about sexuality, it's about people.
It's not that bisexual and gay teens are bad at not hurting others, it's that everyone is bad at not hurting others. It makes me feel a little less angry knowing we're are equally terrible.
Yes it's a given homosexual people are not into the opposite sex...but there is nothing to be done about that. Being angry at lesbians because they aren't into you because your male seems like a waste of brain power.
Also though people can't really know where they stand as far as sexuality or what they look for in a relationship without some experimentation. Hurt feelings suck, but they are kind of part of life...people shouldn't stay in a relationship just to not hurt the other persons feelings or get in a relationship just to keep from hurting someones feelings.
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