Made peace with my breasts - and my boyfriend! :D

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My boyfriend visited earlier and I gladly let him massage my chest. We even watched The Tudors, which had a scene with a naked woman having sex with the king, together and I felt fine, even commenting that she was pretty. I told him that I like my boobs how they are as long as he does. He smiled and said, "They're perfect. And they aren't as small as you think either. They aren't As." After he said he had always liked smaller boobs in porn anyway I said, "I'm glad you like smaller ones. Now I know if you see a woman with bigger ones you won't lust after her and if you see one with small ones, well, maybe she'll remind you of me?" He said, "Exactly!" And even if she didn't, somehow it isn't as threatening as it would be if he wanted bigger ones - at least he's not lusting over something I can't give him. We talked about how smaller chests are more sensitive and that surgery stretches the areola, and I decided out loud "Know what [boyfriend]? If I need that for a dress or something, that's what the rubber push up pads at Walmart are for." I was in a really happy mood and still am. I changed my mind about those too - it isn't false advertising if it isn't advertising at all and I'm doing it for myself! I thanked him for being so supportive of me and apologized for not believing him. He said, "It's okay, you needed it. And everyone has bad confidence sometimes."

Tl;dr: I talked to my boyfriend and it made me feel 1000x better, plus I made up with him for my craziness these past few weeks.

Last edited by EmoGlambertAspie on 14 Feb 2013, 12:27 am, edited 1 time in total.

Glad to hear it. You deserve to be happy!

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and whatever chocolate he gave you pls let me know brand and type. I need crates of that.

He didn't give me chocolates, surprisingly - I just was in a really good mood and tired of feeling like s**t about something I can't really change without surgery, which scares me.

Well to be honest I don't think you need to change anything about yourself. I know it's not easy.. I struggle with it all the time.. how I wish I were just 2 inches taller... but I'm slowly slowly learning to just like the way I am..

You have an understanding BF. so great to hear.

Indeed.

Good for you that you've started clearing up your body image issues! But please don't base your feelings of self-worth on feeling better or worse than other people. Other womens breast-sensitivity or aerola size (???) have nothing to do with you and is neither better nor worse. Media likes to pit women against each other in an imaginary fight for mens attention, and it's just not based in reality. That's not how the world works. You shouldn't base your self-worth on what your boyfriend thinks either, since what would happen if you broke up? Is his view of your body more important than your own? It has to come from the inside. Hope you get there someday, and good luck.

I do feel better about myself now. As I said, I'm tired of feeling like s**t just because society tells me I should.

Society doesn't tell you that. You're placing the blame on an entity external to your being. You are the one who keeps telling herself she should.

Well, you can't deny society contributes - face it, every magazine for men, Maxim, etc., posters, commercials for men - if it has a woman, she has huge breasts. My boyfriend told me last week "society says a lot of s**t that you shouldn't take personally," but it took me seeing it myself to believe him.

And now, a word from our super-sized sponsor.

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Let me guess, he did a boobjob with you?

...or what would happen if her breast size changed? that happens naturally too, for a wide variety of reasons. mine has ranged 7 cup sizes in my adult life for various reasons. if i cared what anyone else thought of them too much, i'd be hooped because they have changed (and are probably still changing).

OP, glad you have some confidence now. we know a lot about your boobs.

OP, just so you know lots of guys are like me: are drawn to breasts like a magnet but are repulsed by these models with x-large ones. My GF is a B size and I actually prefer smaller than that. It's not just "manly" to express it openly.

You are referring to glamour models, you aren't specifically talk about a fair amount of actresses and fashion models that have a smaller boob size. Of course, they are going to have big breasts, that's like picking up a magazine like Flex or any other reputable bodybuilding magazine and saying that the guys on the front shouldn't have huge muscles from juicing. Of course they are going to have huge muscles just as glamour models are going to have big breasts.

These people are willing to use whatever it takes to have the edge regardless of the long term damage it causes and that's one thing these magazines won't tell you.

You're a sweet, sensitive, kind and caring girl, Gilbert and that's what should matter the most to people who matter the most. You need to accept yourself and do things for your own choice, well done on gaining more confidence in yourself.