Directness and Honesty

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Does anyone else have trouble with partners not being direct and honest about what they want? I feel like most of the men I've ever met are afraid to tell me what they want because they are scared of running me off. While in some cases this is true, isn't it better to tell the truth and find out than to lie to stay with someone who you know may not want what you do?

Yes, getting a strait answer can feel like I am pulling a 300 lb log uphill.

I'm not sure if this helps or not, but some people don't say what's on their mind because it might ruin things for them. Whether this means they have bad or good intentions is specific to the person.

But some people, like my ex-gf, tend to just play that game of "I'm saying one thing, but I'm very subtly hinting that you guess what I want and ask me about it." But she had a personality disorder herself.

I understand it can be annoying, and I really can't offer much input besides this. At least, that's all I can think of right now.