what should i do?

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so, i've been talking to a girl on okcupid, and I'm debating with her to ask her out. She seems cool, and all, but one of my quirks is I hate when people use bad spelling. She doesn't know the difference between too and to, and while that may sound like a ridiculous reason to cut her off, I am an aspie after all. What should I do? I also hate when girls say dude and bro, but she hasn't thankfully lol.

and before I get yelled at....i don't think being turned on by intelligence is a terrible thing to ask for

if you do go out with her,

then you could help her with her spelling.... typos in messaging appear to be natural...

it's stuff like too and to. She misuses them. It just annoys me lol.

good spelling isn't an accurate measure of intelligence, it's just an accurate measure of... being able to spell well. so if she demonstrates intelligence in other areas, then she probably isn't stupid.

if she seems unintelligent in other ways, then she might not be intellectually stimulating enough for you, but if that is actually the only thing that stands out for you then you're hanging too much on it. after all, you don't spell words aloud in person on dates.

EDIT: i should add that the to/too differentiation is a grammar matter anyway, not a spelling error.

I agree with Lexie on this; I know some pretty accomplished, smart & educated folks who constantly misuse their/they're/there, to/too/two, then/than....................

And yes, it bothers me because I always need to read their sentences with the wrong homonym two or three times to get the meaning. But the content of their writing is enough reward for me to slog through.

Why not give her a whirl and see whether her bad written grammar is actually a turn-off. I mean, texting/emailing is not dating; it's just texting & emailing.

To be honest, your apparent inability to use capital letters makes your gripe seem kind of hypocritical.

i think i screwed it up anyway. I made a joke about her buying me a car thinking it was witty(you need to see the conversation to understand) and she hasnt replied.

I would roll with it man. Huge turn off in any game male female is having their own intelligence commented on. Frankly, how I am online is not how I am as a person. Does that make sense? If it bothers you that much spend time with her outside of the internet like in a park. Get to know her as a individual instead of using the veil of the internet. Just a suggestion

Did she ever reply? Maybe she has dyslexia, I'm a terrible speller, and sometimes with grammar too, especially if I'm rushing my reply (like i do on text/im/casual email). However I have a Masters degree (in something that relied heavily on writing) and writing is actually probably the things I do best! I'm still not the best speller though, even when I apply myself. (Don't know what that actually says about me haha but I did graduate from my Masters with 3.9GPA so I guess I'm doing ok). Also if you are in the position to be turning down someone on something relatively insignificant, then, NEXT!!

tl;dr
Don't judge a book by it's cover
AND
beggars can't be choosers

Are you planning on relying on texts if things go well?

If so you may have a problem in the future if you start being annoyed at her misuse of to/too and you could have some problems.

Otherwise go out with her and see how she comes accross offline