Not beleiving in the concept of soul mates, destiny, etc

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So anyone else here strongly not believe in soul mates and how you might be "destined" to find that someone in life? Being high functioning autistic, I see things in a logical way a lot and I see no logic what so ever between such ridiculous concepts that our society seems to think our real from inaccurate portrays of love and romance in fiction and media. I get people that tell me sometimes in regards to still being single saying things like "oh don't worry, that someone is waiting for you, you just have to find her". Uhm, no. No one is "waiting for me", and I know no one is just going to magically appear in front of me because I'm autistic or been treated badly just because I'm autistic. I almost find it pathetic how some of these people will just sit around for years waiting because according to them that someone will just "appear" in their life, 3 or 4 years go by and these same people still don't have a bf/gf!

Just because you want a gf/bf doesn't mean you get one, theres people that spend their whole lives trying to find that person they think exists and sometimes die before finding them and never knowing what love was. Being on the autistic spectrum doesn't make it any easier with romance acourse, our society has now made it to where a relationship needs to be based off of how much money you make and what kinda job you have and all these other ridiculous things that shouldn't really matter. Throw in that your autistic or some other type of disability and that throws your chances in half of having a relationship due to much of the judgmental people in this vile world we live in.

You have a very keen mind, and every claim you made is valid.

Well, seeing as there are millions upon millions of people in any given country, you're bound to find at least one person you can tolerate/appreciate/like/love/connect to. That only works if you're looking, though. Not even just looking for a romantic partner, but for friends as well. It's true, no one is just going to fall in your lap... at least, it's very unlikely they will.

You should read this:
http://what-if.xkcd.com/9/

The idea of soul mates is ridiculous. Both in finding one as a desisting factor if you should go out with someone, but also when you are going out with someone it is used as a sissy excuse when a person encounters any difficulty. Instead of working through differences they break up, because they were obviously not soul mates.

Awesome link! 0:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYQWAdAbdfA[/youtube]

That one is hilarious, and very relevant

No, you're not.

Why not? With the advent of the Internet, it's even more likely.

I'm a fatalist-determinist so basically it means if I am with some one then I see it that I was meant to be with that someone.


I don't see any reason not to be this way either, I have no choice as to where I was born, what socioeconomic bracket I was born into, what ethnicity I am, what time period I was born into, no say as to when I was born, and no say as to when I will die. So basically all the really important stuff is totally out of my hands.

Basically you are given Point's A and Z, and have no say over them or what variable they represent. But it is your choice how you navigate points B through Y.

Because its pretty much just another way of saying "you'll find someone out there" from my original post which has no logic to it whatsoever. And don't even get me started about long distance dating, trust me save yourself the pain and trouble in the end.

There's no such thing as soul mates - just another myth popularized by our vacant culture to give us hope of something better.

There's no such thing as soul mates, nor is love dependent on "sparks" or "chemistry".

Finding your soul mate is a matter of probability imo. Sparks I consider purely biological. Chemistry technical.

Last edited by Vomelche on 25 Feb 2013, 9:32 am, edited 1 time in total.

I've been saying this crap my WHOLE LIFE and no one agreed, and now somebody else says the same thing and gets all sorts of praise.

Typical.

I hate the term "soul mate"... it's been abused far too often, often when someone is merely panting with extreme infatuation.

If the man you dumped me for was your soul mate, where is he now? Oh you broke up? Hmmm.... not much of a soul mate, was he?