To get the love of my life in Japan, Korea, or China...

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(My first preference will probably be Japan, or Korea. I love Japan so much, but I'm 1/2 Korean so I love Korea a lot too.)

I plan to study abroad in Japan next fall. There, I hope to find the love of my life. Whereas in the United States, I wait for women to approach me, I'll be less afraid to approach women in Japan. I think they're fond of foreigners so this gives me reason to be more confident in doing this.

Now, when I meet a Japanese woman and we get to know each other, and I act like myself, will she just assume that the way I act is the way most American men act, and therefore, let it slide more easily? After all, I'm sure that they will usually not know what to expect from an American college student in terms of behavior, the way we talk, and some other things that we Aspies happen to be deficient at, as opposed to what an American woman would expect from us. Therefore, she will not think much of the way I would normally act, would she?

Or will she see through my "Foreigner's Cover" and still realize that some things aren't normal about me and about the way I generally am? What were your experiences with foreign members of the opposite sex, and what countries were they from? What are your thoughts on this whole issue?

Japan is awesome... all the coolest stuff comes out in Japan first. I'd like to work there and build some of the cool stuff.

I don't know about Japanese. But I have worked for a Korean boss hence got to know many Koreans and Chinese and those women are much more understanding. Some of them tend to be rather shy and less aggressive than the average American woman. So this might be a plus for you. I have to say I miss all the Asian people I used to know and hang out with. Many of them were not born in America so they were very fascinating and enjoyable to be around.

In college my RA was a Japanese girl (it was a co-ed hall). She was very nice. I
remember one time the topic of muscle bound alpha males came up in a conversation as we watched some body building equipment being sold on a TV
commerical. Other girls in the room said they thought it was hot but the Japanese
girl did not find it attractive.

I've never had experience dealing with women in Japan, or any Asian county, for that matter. However, I did have experience dealing with local girls in Israel. Now, Israeli people in general like Americans, because the US has a large Jewish population, and because Bush supports Israel. So my experience dealing with Israeli girls was very pleasant. They were very open and friendly, and quite forgiving of me acting like a tourist. Even the girls in a club (and clubs are notorious for having arrogant, stuck-up people) were very nice to me, even after I told them I was from the US: they danced with me quite closely, and asked me questions (which, unfortunately, I didn't understand, since I don't speak Hebrew). On top of that, they were gorgeous, but I guess that's beside the point.

I like something about Japan too. My young sister realy like Japan; she downloads Japanese music and anything Japanese. I think Aspies like Japanese people.

I'd like to find the woman of my dreams in Japan or Korea,too.


-SpaceCase

Hopefully you've found some way over the language barrier... at least some of the people in the major cities can speak some english.

I don't know how that's gonna go but good luck. The only thing I thought I'd just give you fair warning on though, my friends were kinda telling me that they don't really view interracial marriages that highly and the way some people her in the US thinking of white/black marriages is how they tend to look at japanese/white. They're also real shy over there supposedly, then again its hard to say what would happen if your a bit shy yourself - might work out better but who's to say. My friends still had a lot of fun over there. They went to a lot of the more prominent Buddhist temples, partied in Tokyo and a few other places, went to the imperial city, videotaped as many Nissan Skylines as they could, and my friend's girlfriend was showing them around a lot (they stayed with her parents in Kyoto for a while as well, got wasted with her dad on so chu ).

What about the mail order brides?