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04 Apr 2013, 9:11 am

(Mod note) this is from another thread, I tried to take over this thread making the first post but miserably failed as you can see that the posts are sorted by dates. I will contact ryan about this now

Pretend to be busier than her and get a new girl, remember some people want what they can't have and when they do it, they aren't content with it. Some people need someone to keep them on their toes, not someone to be content with. If she is that type of girl, it will be better to move on and find someone that is happy to settle down in a relationship with you.

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04 Apr 2013, 9:12 am

She probably expects you to bombard her with texts and go begging after her, do the opposite.

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04 Apr 2013, 9:17 am

I don't think starting to play games is a good option. Why not to give it a chance and take things slowly, seeing what happens?

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04 Apr 2013, 9:19 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Pretend to be busier than her and get a new girl, remember some people want what they can't have and when they do it, they aren't content with it. Some people need someone to keep them on their toes, not someone to be content with. If she is that type of girl, it will be better to move on and find someone that is happy to settle down in a relationship with you.

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04 Apr 2013, 9:57 am

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Yes, play games..... that'll get you far.
Never take relationship advice from this guy.

I can't read her mind, but there are two possibilities;
1. She really doesn't have time
2. She's using it as an excuse to dump you

Now, personally I'm a strong believer that if someone wants to make time for you, they will. Unless someone is travelling constantly, or has kids or whatever... they probably do have spare time, they're just choosing not to spend it with you as you're not a priority.

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04 Apr 2013, 11:45 am

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3. She feel overwhelmed and actually just needs to step back and take a breather.

I wouldn't hinge everything on it, but it is another possibility since she left that door open.

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04 Apr 2013, 2:49 pm

MjrMajorMajor wrote:

uwmonkdm wrote:

3. She feel overwhelmed and actually just needs to step back and take a breather.

I wouldn't hinge everything on it, but it is another possibility since she left that door open.

All of this^^^

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04 Apr 2013, 7:03 pm

Lilya wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

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BAZINGA!

Agreed with the others, no need for stupid @#$^@#$%@# head-games. She's either interested and has time for you, or isn't and won't.

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05 Apr 2013, 12:29 am

Lilya wrote:

I don't think starting to play games is a good option. Why not to give it a chance and take things slowly, seeing what happens?

If a girl says she isn't ready for a relationship, it means she isn't ready for a relationship which means he should find someone that is ready for a relationship. If she isn't interested in a relationship, he should move on to someone who is interested in having a relationship?

When a woman runs hot and cold or shows signs of being inconsistent, it is better to forget her and move on.

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05 Apr 2013, 12:38 am

That's not what your previous advice suggested. If anything it was leaning towards being so hurt that you try to create drama for the sake of keeping that person in your mind

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05 Apr 2013, 1:10 am

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That's not what your previous advice suggested. If anything it was leaning towards being so hurt that you try to create drama for the sake of keeping that person in your mind

She may actually be too busy to be with him and that might be a legitimate reason, either say she said she isn't ready for a relationship so he should try to keep himself busier or at least pretend to busier as it will help with helping on in the same way that finding a new girl will.

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05 Apr 2013, 1:26 am

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That's not what your previous advice suggested. If anything it was leaning towards being so hurt that you try to create drama for the sake of keeping that person in your mind

Too late buddy!! No sense in trying to clean things up. And how would pretending to be busy help him? If he's pretending he knows he's not really busy.... :roll:

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05 Apr 2013, 5:00 am

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the truth shall set you free! :twisted:

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05 Apr 2013, 6:30 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Lilya wrote:

I don't think starting to play games is a good option. Why not to give it a chance and take things slowly, seeing what happens?

With all respect, but relationship advice isn't really your forte, Wolf...

It's not a black and white scenario. This girl may be subtly trying to get more space for herself as things apparently happened very fast, but you do realize that saying things this girl says in OP is never easy? It sounds to me that this girl isn't either willing to "just let things go", which should say something.

The most stupid possible thing to do would be start playing some games, pretend to be something your not, or try to make this girl jealous in the name of some petty revenge. Give her time to think and try to be patient/mature about it. It's a very difficult situation to be in, but it's not possible to say which turn things will take without time.

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05 Apr 2013, 7:32 am

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Wolfheart wrote:

Lilya wrote:

I don't think starting to play games is a good option. Why not to give it a chance and take things slowly, seeing what happens?

I never said that he should aim for some petty revenge, he should simply get with another girl and move on to one that wants a relationship, why mine a brick wall when he can mine a seam of gold? If things aren't going anywhere and she's leading him down the garden path, he would be better to be with someone he feels more secure with.

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05 Apr 2013, 7:33 am

Hey Lilya, how do you get that quote under your name like that?

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