How long before asking for 2nd date?

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Hey y'all, I just had my first date in over 3 years (I am 26) two nights ago. At the end she hinted at calling her about going out again but before school gets too strenuous.

The question is....how long should I wait before asking her out for a second date? What is the norm? what you you recommend?

Thank You.

I don't think there is a set rule or time. It depends on when and where you feel comfortable with asking her.

Tim

I once said to an NT roommate,

"How long do you think I should wait before I call her?"

and he said,

"Wait?"

I think three days is the right amount of time to ask for a second date. If you do that anytime before, it'll make you look like a loner who has no life (true or not, you don't want the girl to know that). When you ask for a second date, have the idea already in your mind (e.g. seeing a movie). You may ask her for opinions on small details, but you should do the planning for the most part.

On a side note, it's helpful to call her the next day after a first date, which shows that you enjoyed the date and would like to see her again. Do not ask for a second date at this time; just ask her how she's doing, and talk briefly.

yeah.

my advice?

wait a week.

I would go with game its safer on his 1 week safety behaviour to not come across as been
(Very clingy) too many variables to say what day before that week, Aspie1 has got a good point too as she showed interest in wanting second date...

2-3 days is the rule. a week would be weird. 3 days does not appear clingy.

trust me.

A week is a very good time limit.

It makes a point.

What. I don't know.

I haven't dated but if I did I would ask for a second date at the conclusion of the first if I thought it went well. If it went over not good I would wait a little and try to find out where I went wrong. If I feel it was a complete failure I probably would look to other people.

A week is way too long to wait. A girl will have gotten you off her mind and be looking out for someone else within a weeks time. The next evening after the date you should call her and say "hey had a good time. hope you did too" and chit chat a bit. If she acts excited in the conversation ask if she'd like to go out again. But don't ask her to go out directly, come up with a definitive plan, like "Would you like to go see that new movie __ insert name here" or "I love that Chinese restaurant on Main Street would you care to join me this Friday evening?" It's also best to speak in person versus texting or emailing.

Thank everyone for your replies. I think I am going to average out everyones advice, and ask her for a 2nd date on monday (5 days after).

She is a bartender where I work (very sociable), but I only see her at work for an hour or two, and maybe 2 or 3 times a week. So it isn't like she will forget me if I do not call her for a week.

But anyways, thanks again for the advice.