This Past Weekend.

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If there's anything that this past weekend has taught me, large-scale parties are a bad idea to go to, especially when you have the wrong intent. This past weekend, i went to a party not too far south from me. The original intent was for myself and some friends to throw a party for a friend who was getting ready to leave to the service.

(If you're gonna hit the quote button, just get to the key stuff.)

My intent was to at least try and get a good conversation from at least ONE female.

Nope.

I couldn't try at all. I was the only person there who didn't have an alcoholic beverage (personal choice). The mix of everything (drinking, making out, etc) was too overwhelming for me and I ended up going into a room for a while until the party died down.

It feels like just another instance of where I tried too hard by not trying at all.

It also raises a big question for me: Am I not supposed to be able to feel those emotions of love like I did before? Am I not supposed to find someone anymore?

I think the best thing to do is just cut yourself some major slack, first of all. Think, "I went to a party and I didn't do anything there and made no progress at all... so what? I'm going back. And I don't have to do anything then either!" If it's just not happening or you don't really want to, or are just too uncomfortable. Just go and don't put yourself up to it, relax and think about doing something else there that makes you feel better.

You have to acknowledge where you are at and build up slowly, I find for myself.

I'm starting from a place of social anxiety, and my goal is not to be socially anxious. Bunch of stuff in between, however long it takes to feel alright; then, flirting.

Progress is measured only against the point where you honestly find yourself to be at, not "am I ever supposed to have a relationship". Of course you are, if you want one! One thing at a time.