Are all your friends foreveralones, too?

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1000Knives
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14 Apr 2013, 9:11 pm

Mine are, the majority anyway. Let me count my friends and acquaintances up.

All my friends I kept from high school have almost no success with girls at all. The one that did have success, married quite early, and he no longer really talks to me for whatever reason. So this is three brothers with no success with girls who are my friends. One big black dude who's like 25 now, who had very limited success, had success at his old Catholic school when he was on the football team and dated a girl from the Catholic girls school next door. His mom broke them up because his mom is crazy. At my school, he had no girls. Has limited success taking a girl out on an occasional date, but no relationships. He's probably about as awkward as me, but more confident/reckless, and black. Let's see, two Indian brothers I don't talk to too much anymore. Not much success on their end. Maybe one got a hookup or something at a party perhaps, but no girlfriends for either of them. I guess my latest friend is more of an acquaintance, 39 years old. As far as I know, not too successful with the ladies. Maybe has had a few GFs, but doesn't talk about any past relationships and isn't currently in one, and seems to be happy with any female attention at all, noticing things like "She said Hi to me, maybe she likes me." That I take for granted as part of normal politeness. So I'm assuming he's not doing currently too well. Let's see, I got one longtime interweb friend who gets hookups/occasionally has a girlfriend, and one other longtime friend who's not been without a girlfriend since like 20ish for 2-3 weeks tops. He didn't have a GF all through high school, though.

So pretty much all my friends, except for one, have terrible relationship experience. There's a saying, "show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

So I'm f****d, right?



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14 Apr 2013, 10:27 pm

1000Knives wrote:
Mine are, the majority anyway. Let me count my friends and acquaintances up.

All my friends I kept from high school have almost no success with girls at all. The one that did have success, married quite early, and he no longer really talks to me for whatever reason. So this is three brothers with no success with girls who are my friends. One big black dude who's like 25 now, who had very limited success, had success at his old Catholic school when he was on the football team and dated a girl from the Catholic girls school next door. His mom broke them up because his mom is crazy. At my school, he had no girls. Has limited success taking a girl out on an occasional date, but no relationships. He's probably about as awkward as me, but more confident/reckless, and black. Let's see, two Indian brothers I don't talk to too much anymore. Not much success on their end. Maybe one got a hookup or something at a party perhaps, but no girlfriends for either of them. I guess my latest friend is more of an acquaintance, 39 years old. As far as I know, not too successful with the ladies. Maybe has had a few GFs, but doesn't talk about any past relationships and isn't currently in one, and seems to be happy with any female attention at all, noticing things like "She said Hi to me, maybe she likes me." That I take for granted as part of normal politeness. So I'm assuming he's not doing currently too well. Let's see, I got one longtime interweb friend who gets hookups/occasionally has a girlfriend, and one other longtime friend who's not been without a girlfriend since like 20ish for 2-3 weeks tops. He didn't have a GF all through high school, though.


I have nof friend so i'm the forever alone
So pretty much all my friends, except for one, have terrible relationship experience. There's a saying, "show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

So I'm f****, right?



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15 Apr 2013, 2:26 am

1000Knives wrote:
There's a saying, "show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

Most of my friends are in relationships or married. Some have kids. I do not believe that quote for a second!



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15 Apr 2013, 2:57 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
1000Knives wrote:
There's a saying, "show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

Most of my friends are in relationships or married. Some have kids. I do not believe that quote for a second!


Except you're not like 1000Knives - you're getting plenty of dates as you said several times here, you have the power of choice of not becoming a foreveralone unless ALL men are not good enough for you but I highly doubt that, by cheer numbers you'll eventually find one.



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15 Apr 2013, 3:14 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
1000Knives wrote:
There's a saying, "show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

Most of my friends are in relationships or married. Some have kids. I do not believe that quote for a second!


Except you're not like 1000Knives - you're getting plenty of dates as you said several times here, you have the power of choice of not becoming a foreveralone unless ALL men are not good enough for you but I highly doubt that, by cheer numbers you'll eventually find one.

I'm just saying the quote is BS. (I hope I never become married with kids, so I'm hoping it's BS!) Basically, I am nothing like the majority of my friends when it comes to dating and relationships. Very different lives in this respect.



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15 Apr 2013, 4:12 am

Most of mine are in a relationship/married, but whether I can call them friends is rather dubious.



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15 Apr 2013, 4:38 am

Nope, most are in relationships/married.


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15 Apr 2013, 5:07 am

Counting my actual friends, 1 out of 3 is. But the fact that she's lesbian and overweight doesn't make things easier for her. (The other two friends are a couple.)

Talking about the "outer circle", maybe 50% are.



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15 Apr 2013, 6:13 am

1000Knives wrote:
So pretty much all my friends, except for one, have terrible relationship experience. There's a saying, "show me your friends, and I'll show you your future."

So I'm f****, right?


I'm impressed you have a decent number of friends in the first place. Kind of reminds me of movies where the "loser" has a group of other "losers" to lean on.

Personally, I don't have any friends, so you're doing better than me.



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15 Apr 2013, 8:00 am

Nope just me.

Kind of OT but I actually have a friend that's a compulsive dater. It's quite sad that her entire sense of self worth is based on having a bf, even if he's a complete dbag. She was married and then [on the road to] divorced and literally the day that it happened she was back on the dating sites (after 11 years with this guy) looking for the next one! One week later she was going on dates! 1 month later she was a live-in gf!

I feel sorry for her. It sucks being forever alone but I think it would suck even more to think life has no purpose without a partner. Although I've tried counselling her on this but she doesn't seem to fussed by it so more power to her I guess :/.



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15 Apr 2013, 8:17 am

periphery wrote:
Nope just me.

Kind of OT but I actually have a friend that's a compulsive dater. It's quite sad that her entire sense of self worth is based on having a bf, even if he's a complete dbag. She was married and then [on the road to] divorced and literally the day that it happened she was back on the dating sites (after 11 years with this guy) looking for the next one! One week later she was going on dates! 1 month later she was a live-in gf!

I feel sorry for her. It sucks being forever alone but I think it would suck even more to think life has no purpose without a partner. Although I've tried counselling her on this but she doesn't seem to fussed by it so more power to her I guess :/.


One time I went with a woman on a date on sunday, she mentioned her former relationship of 3 years, I've asked her how long it has been since she broke up with him, she replied "yesterday".

I looked into her eyes and I was like "and you're fine now??!".

She was totally fine and indifferent.



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15 Apr 2013, 8:26 am

Besides me, there was a guy I know who's in his mid-40s who never had any experience at all.....until just recently. Now I am the only one left.


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15 Apr 2013, 8:56 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
I'm just saying the quote is BS.


It is BS. All my friends have completely different lives from my own, most are married with kids. I'm still living a young adult's/teen's life in comparison.



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15 Apr 2013, 9:28 am

foreveralone, has this been added to the dictionary yet?....Ok but seriously you cannot declare yourself foreveralone unless you know the future or you are specifically planning not to pursue a relationship. I don't think where your friends are is really going to tell you where you will end up, you're not them and they are not you.


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15 Apr 2013, 1:39 pm

Nope, most of mine are either married or in long-term relationships. And I agree that the quote you posted means nothing in regards to your own situation. I like to think that we are masters of our own fate, and it is never too late to make a change!



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15 Apr 2013, 3:53 pm

The ones I know that are alone are not the ones to ask about dating and relationships too. They are alone for a reason. Watch what happens when I come to them and say what girl problem I have recently with a date I am pursuing and want to keep around. Usually their advice is to "dump her." the ones that are involved are more likely trying to encourage me to keep the girl. Goes to show that the lonely miserable ones want company because they are jealous that they are masturbating to porn while you are out meeting people and possibly getting laid. I feel the need for sex or intimacy more often than I used to. I know now and understand which ones are the jealous ones.

With that being said, almost everyone I know has been alone for a while except one person who has recently dumped an ex of theirs, and two friends who have been together for almost 9 years now. An acquaintence of mine is clear in communicating with me what ladies find attractive and what they don't. I do my best to follow the advice and most of the time this person is right.