Obsessive Interest or Love?

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Hello guys ! ( In case you don't have enough of me already ) I am asking another one :

I have read about Aspies obsessions and interest and that sometimes they can become quite obsessed with a certain individual and then they will just lose that interest all of a sudden.

So, how would an NT ( or anyone really) know if an Aspie is genuinely interested in them because they have feelings for them
or if they have just become an interest that will quickly be replaced ?
Any signs to look out for?

Thanks!

he gets jealous like any other guy?

why would that make a difference between obsession and love? someone who is obsessed might also get jealous if someone else is " on their interest" ...?

you're the one making the distinction without a difference!

Lol!

well there should be a difference between an aspie's obsession and an aspie who is truly falling in love or else people would not have differentiated this in several topics -_-

I can't speak for others, but while interests may come and go - love for a person is quite different. The only thing that can stop my love for someone is the recipient squashing it with cruelty, in which case she'll be dropped like a hot potato.


Just how nasty was this ultimatum you gave him, etc? It's possible you were so mean (whether or not you meant to, due to flash of anger, etc.) that you turned him away for good. [shrug] Hard to say...

I find it unlikely an aspie would lose interest in their loving partner for something like a video game, etc... rather, merely distracted by another interest before they put it down and come back to you.

You'll have to ask him yourself. Nicely.

my first one love I thought was love, but everyone seems to say it is infatuation or limerence. I over analysed everything to try and get her back. nothing helped. that was the obsession, but I'm sure that I am still in love with her. after 10 years of no contact.

perhaps my memory and dreamland overlapping creating a fictional character of her. If the girl was my obsession, then I would try to find as much as I can about this person hoping that it will become love. so if something sticks out that changes the obsession then it never converts into love for me

I don't know what I am talking about, never thought about it. Maybe all my love interests were obsessions.

This, and only this; if you can live without your loved one, then you must wonder whether it is love at all.