how many here, will never get married

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The institution of marriage is obsolete. The right girl for me wouldn't need the approval of any church or government in order for us to love each other.

I would like to get married because I enjoy the sentiment of it.

However, so long as I'm with my boyfriend, it's unlikely.
He doesn't see the point in legally binding yourself to another person. He (and I agree, I really do) believe that if you trust and and love another person, you don't need a legally binding contract to keep you together. He also doesn't like making promises for the future and being 'trapped' with another person, because you never know how things change. His parents went through a nasty divorce, and his aunt and uncle (who pretty much raised him from age 11 on) are Catholic conservatives that really do not like one another, but refuse to get a divorce because of their beliefs as well as fear of backlash from their community and family.

I appreciate and respect his reasoning. It makes a lot of sense.

But, I can't say I don't like the idea of being married.

I wouldn't be surprised if I never get married. In the words of my dad, "She wouldn't hold hands with herself, much less a guy."

I'd like to, but no one will have me

I have no desire to be legally tied to someone through an institution of marriage

Now to fall in love with the right person and have a good relationship...? I would like that but I definitely don't expect it to happen.

I don't want to get married.

I have been married 43 years.
I wish I never did that. Life just never turned out the way I had hoped.

I'd like to, but I doubt it'll happen. So much about myself I've got to improve and to make better before I'm a worthy catch for some woman out there. Gotta make more work, gotta be more successful, gotta improve as an athlete, fix my wardrobe, fix my personality, become more worldly and charismatic. There's a lot about me that needs to be fixed period before I think any woman would give me a second glance. But I'm getting there slowly but surely, improving myself until I'm ready and worthy of love.

As someone who has struggled with dating/relationships all my life I would say with certainty the odds are very slim that I will get married.

Well, me and my boyfriend with autism plan to marry if we're still together by the time I earn my bachelor's degree and so far he seems to be in this for the long term.

After fifteen years and four kids, I can give you a definition of marriage, or at least of "happy, healthy marriage" where "happy and healthy" is defined as low perceived stress, low conflict, everything looks OK.

It means that two people are on their "on-stage" behavior every waking moment of every day of their lives, with few exceptions. You go to work: You put on your 100% ABA-approved best. You come home to your spouse: You put on your 100% ABA-approved best. You say you are a stay-at-homer?? So am I. All day long, you interact with the children, and how you are around them shapes how they are, which shapes what people will see when they, in a few short months, go to preschool. All day long, you put on your 100% ABA-approved best, and you juggle balls and laugh and smile and enunciate perfectly while you do it (articulation is an important part of verbal development; if they don't have perfect articulation by age 3 and 1/2, weekly speech therapy will cost you $200 a month and a bunch of time if you have really great insurance-- trust me on this).

It means living a life where you cannot, even in your own home, metaphorically kick your shoes off, loosen your belt, fart if the urge seizes, and relax. If you do, you can guarantee that all hell will break loose in short order and it will, absolutely, be all your fault.

I was young and lonely and I loved him very, very much. Now I'm middle-aged and lonely and I still love him very, very much.

I'm afraid of him, I'm afraid for him, and I feel very guilty for having ruined his life and foolish for having taken everything my life could have been and allowed it to come to this. He never says as much, but even I can read nonverbal communication well enough to know he feels the same.

Don't get me started about how I feel about having brought four less-than-perfectly-perfect children into existence.

Since we have the kids and need each other to survive, we both seem to feel that the best route is to stay together. And the best way for us to make that peaceful is to communicate very carefully, very minimally, and only superficially, to control ourselves as if we were in a job interview at all times, and to deny the existence of any problem or difficulty until outside circumstances force us to confront it's existence. When that happens, one partner must get their way while the other one keeps their opinions to themselves and says it's wonderful.

Yes. I regret the decision. If I could go back to the day we decided to commit to each other and shack up in a run-down trailer and give it our damnedest to make it work, I would tell him that I thought it was not a viable plan, offer him a firm businesslike handshake, and walk away without a backward glance.

People should live in individual efficiency apartments. Children should be grown in laboratories. I used to hate it, but Brave New World is really the way to go.

Marriage-- NO! Polite acquaintanceship-- YES!

Children-- NO!! Sexual intercourse-- ONLY IF YOU ARE STERILIZED!! CELIBACY-- YES!!

That doesn’t look very healthy to me

I dont know if I'll marry. I could if I really wanted to. Right now in my life, I am no way ready, I have the social/emotional maturity of a teen. I'm amazed that some people my age are married with kids. For me, I figure the earliest I'll marry is 30. I still have so much more life to live before I tie myself down to commitments like that. I'm not even settled in a stable place, location wise. I'm going to be moving this Aug to CA to do my masters and after that, I might move again. Anyways, I lost out on the majority of my childhood, I'm not about to loose out on being a young adult as long as I can. Anyways not the expected response. Ok Im rambling here.

I doubt I will ever get married, sometimes I just want to crawl away and let the world swallow me up.