A Girl I Like

Post Reply New Topic

So thier is this girl I really like and I would love to ask her out but I have lots of issues, worrys etc thats not just to do with me being not very well know by anybody (im trying to work on that) but setting the issues with actually asking her aside (which are however still an issue) what should I do?

I don't know this girl really as with many people at my school which I have been going to for quite sometime and I know the people I mean iv been in and around them but not really talked etc also I went to a centre at this school for AS and all the students know I have AS, they also know im extremely kind and iv kept myself to myself but I dont want that anymore I lobe beinb around other and talking with them and I would especially love a gf but I worry what other's dje to AS and they way I have acted in the past and still do act (scared) but I want to change however is this a good thing to do, to just walk up this girl knowing one my AS and two that iv been very withdrawn in the past and basically ask her out or even for a coffee or something. What will she think, what dose she think of me and would she give me a chance especially as for me to do this it would take enormous courage and energy.

Bottom of the life question is what should I do in this situation, I so want to get to know her and exprenice something all iv wanted is love in life but is their little chance here should I do it or not? Im stuck if anybody could post what they think I would gladly appreciate that, im just in a difficult spot in my life and this is one of many things on my mind.

Tell her you like her and that you would like to get to know her better. Then ask her if she would like to go on a date with you to (name of place or activity).

Your reputation seems to be "odd but nice", if she is interested she will respond with a yes, or a "let me ask my dad"

The problem is also I have major confidence issues and asking her will be hard let alone what Awsner I get I just don't know if I should or not but I appreciate the advice, the thing is is it not awkward to randomly approach her and say I like you, do you fancy going out sometime?

The other problem is a place the school I go to is one town away from mine its hard toget thier and impossible for me to stay in thay area after school, plus im kinda clueless as to where to take her also noting she goses to allot of partys and has allot of freinds, where as I'm the complete opposite. This is my main issue just the point of is it even worth while in anyway espicaly since it will take me allot of courage and then how to proceed after that is other obsitcal, I want to be with somebody but am I just aiming way oit here and just wanting something I cant have. Thank you for the comments.

Just remember this isn't your one and only chance to go out with this girl or any other girl. You should not put so much pressure on yourself.
I do empathize with feeling anxious about asking a girl out or asking a girl for her phone number, but that is not even really the hard part(not trying to scare you just being honest).

Yea I understand that its just for me its if or not it seems strange because Im just asking her out of the blue like that. But I do also wonder will her knowing about my AS as everybody dose In my school effect her reaction to me asking or her thoughts of me as a person?

As someone who almost went 30 years without a Girlfriend, I cannot emphasize enough:
ASK HER OUT!
Most of my problems today are because I was so scared of failure as a teenager. I had to learn life lessons the hard way as an independent adult. Yes, you are nervous (although I doubt you were as nervous as I was) but to paraphrase a line from a movie I saw yesterday
In life we will have successes and we will have failures. At the time, we might not be able to identify what's a success and what's a failure.
I'm telling you now that whether you are successful or not, the important thing is to GO FOR IT. That is the true success right there! Even if the whole school laughs at you for days on end, it's still a success. I only wish I could explain myself clearer. Again, if I have not made myself clear, ASK HER OUT!

I got laughed at in the Junior High dance (I think I might have had an involuntary you-know-what without realizing it since I am proportionally sized if you catch my drift) and the girls all avoided me for days. I used that as an excuse to not talk to any girls for many, many years when in reality they probably all forgot about it by the end of the next week. I myself have to trying to work up the courage to ask this woman out until I realized "if she says no, that is a far bigger success than if she says yes just for a pity date or because she is too polite to reject me." You will understand if you end up in my shoes why I have the emotional maturity of a college student.

I got rudely rejected for a job once and it turned out to be the BEST thing that ever happened to me. I should go back and thank that employer for treating me that way. Not only did THEY lose a potentially great employee but I found a BETTER, HIGHER PAYING job that otherwise I never would have sought. Girlfriends are much the same way and sometimes in life the only way to success is through what appears to be at the time a failure. Now go for it!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KRBjD7W782w[/youtube]