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13 May 2013, 3:27 pm

This is a real problem for me. I absolutely cannot stand human contact. This is the primary reason why I have never been in a relationship (no hugging, no kissing, no holding hands... what would be the point?). Any suggestions for getting over this?



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13 May 2013, 3:34 pm

Gradually...I used to be the same way. But if you really don't want to do it at all, why are you concerned about it?



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13 May 2013, 3:37 pm

I desire personal connections with people. I even desire (internally) physical ones. But when it actually comes to physical contact, I am extremely uncomfortable.



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13 May 2013, 3:46 pm

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I desire personal connections with people. I even desire (internally) physical ones. But when it actually comes to physical contact, I am extremely uncomfortable.


Oh, then you can just do it a little bit at a time. I did this, and it worked.

Start with just being friends and then move to play fighting or something that isn't prolonged or touchy feely.



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13 May 2013, 3:48 pm

Oh crap, you want ME to initiate flirting? IN PERSON 8O



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13 May 2013, 3:51 pm

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Oh crap, you want ME to initiate flirting? IN PERSON 8O


Find a shy nerdy guy. And do it. I doubt you'll be rejected. Shy nerdy guys are not crawling in girls, usually.



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13 May 2013, 3:55 pm

I had this until I was 18/19..alcohol helped a lot in that department before then :lol:
I wouldn't recommend it for you though..not safe.



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13 May 2013, 3:56 pm

Small high school. The type doesn't really exist. But even so, I would still have the physical contact problem.



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13 May 2013, 5:51 pm

Surely with most of these things it is all about acclimatisation. Begin slowly, pushing your comfort zone, but not so badly you want to give up.



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13 May 2013, 5:59 pm

I don't particularly much like contact either, but I have touchy feely friends so I kinda got used to it. But my friends do give me more personal space (at my request) then others. Alcohol does help :lol:, but I found when I did develop a crush, touching was a lot easier because I wanted to as I liked them.


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14 May 2013, 7:45 am

Chrisicus wrote:
I don't particularly much like contact either, but I have touchy feely friends so I kinda got used to it. But my friends do give me more personal space (at my request) then others. Alcohol does help :lol:, but I found when I did develop a crush, touching was a lot easier because I wanted to as I liked them.


The crush thing makes it worse for me :huh:



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14 May 2013, 7:56 am

Find a touch-friend of the opposite sex.

"I touch you once, you touch me once"

"I touch you twice, you touch me twice"

Something like that.



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14 May 2013, 7:58 am

Problem: I don't have any male friends. Worse problem: I can't touch people of the SAME sex (which I am not sexually attracted to).



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14 May 2013, 7:59 am

I haven't even kissed my own mother since I was 7.



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14 May 2013, 8:02 am

You have to start somewhere.

Start by kissing your own hand.



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14 May 2013, 8:06 am

Oh yeah, that's not pathetic. Doesn't help to touch ME, therapists already tried that tactic.