"I Was Thinking About You"

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It's 1:30 AM, after a night of getting stoned and drunk with my brother, and his friend I begin to turn in.

Earlier today I talked to a good friend of mine over facebook. We were in a play together about two weeks ago where we had fun together, and despite choking on my tongue when talking to her a lot we did grow closer together. If you don't know the story she's a girl I was friends with in high school when I was a senior and she was a freshman, we have had periods of growing closer and then further apart again, and needless to say I am in love with her. But she has a boyfriend, I have asked her about him, in a kind and innocent manner, and she said she liked him but doesn't love him, we (the girl and I) live in a town that is about an hour and a half from the town where her boyfriend lives. I'm on summer break and she will be on break in a few weeks, and when we talked over facebook today,the first thing she said was "I was thinking about you." We kept talking and she seemed lonely, sad, and scared about the future. We had a long philosophical talk, she is very smart which is probably what I love most about her, and I think she may be getting interested in me because when I helped make her feel better at the end of the conversation she asked me to hang out with her when we both have time. I don't want to ruin the relationship we already have by driving a spike between her and her boyfriend and I wont try to, but if she does love me then I will return the love I have for her, boyfriend or no boyfriend. Well it's now 2:00 AM and I gotta go to sleep, need to work out in the morning.

Oh, Franki. I hope this works out better for you than it did for me, brother. When I was exactly your age, the mother of one of my mom's childhood friends gave me a picture of her granddaughter, who was the same age as me. One Saturday evening, I went to Circuit City where she worked, struck up a conversation with her, and eventually got up the nerve to ask her out. That's when she told me she wasn't sure, because she was not seeing her boyfriend at the time, but was thinking about getting back with him, so it wasn't a no per se, but it wasn't a yes either. Very sad for her, she lost out on something good. The long and short of it, she married him a few years later, he cheated on her, she got married a second time, that husband cheated on her, now she's married to husband number three. I will always wish her all the best, it's just sad. Anyway, I hope it all works out for you.

You need to drop this "love" talk. You aren't in love. True love is something that develops over time. What you have is infatuation and if you don't get a handle on it, you're going to push her away. It sounds like she's ready to end things with her boyfriend but isn't sure and the easiest way to chace her back into his arms is to come on too strong. Hangout as friends without any expectations and if it's meant to happen it will.