Young Women look unfriendly

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I know I'm being a little presumptuous with such a blanket statement, but girls never really look friendly, they almost look anti-social, so I try to limit my dealings with them. On the other hand if they are being too friendly (like, I dunno, rubbing their bum on me) I get wary and embarrassed. I'm not cut out for this. Maybe X would help.

Most people look unfriendly to me but I think I'm a bit biased. It does seem to be that the preference is to look tough rather than happy, which can be seen as a sign of weakness. The girls who rub their bums on you may be doing it for fun but may want have sex with you, why don't you ask them? I personally don't recommend drugs but it's your choice.

Yes, I can relate. But it's about people, not women specifically. It's an AvPD trait

Schizoid, in my experience there are two dynamics going on with young women who appear unfriendly:

First, young women, especially really attractive young women, have something men find almost irresistible. And since men tend to be much bigger and stronger, a lot of women do give off vibes to stay away from them. But this is something most women can turn on and off. If a woman really likes a man, she will go out of her way to be nice and receptive to him.

Second, some women really are unfriendly, and woe be to the man who finds himself in a committed relationship with one of these.

I think the trick is for a man is to think with his head as well as with his genitals, and learn to distinguish between the two types of women, which is admittedly more difficult for aspies. It took me a lot of tries before I found a good woman.

Many women feel like prey in a world of predators.

Yeah, that's the vibes I'm getting, goddamnit! they never seem comfortable around me, a lot of people ask me what's wrong, when nothing is, and I don't realize I'm making faces that most people assume an anxious or devious person would make.

Yes. I slap a smile on my face when I leave home but that can be creepy, also. Someone commented on that, once. I did not know what to say.

Yeah, sometimes I think that's a no win situation. You wear a fake, creepy smile, it scares the ladies. You look as if you are mad at the world, that doesn't work out too well either. There's got to be some sort of middle ground, I just don't know for sure what that is.

well, sometimes young women are mad about something.

i'm a woman and the person who commented on my smiling all the time was a man. it does seem to be a no win problem.

the women i knew/know are unfriendly because they are fearful. like "red alert. someone is getting too close, too fast. shields up. phasers ready." i do know women who are mad about something. some mad for a few minutes and some who are mad for a lifetime.

I decided I would look unfriendly, too.

If blokes would stop acting like morons around me, thinking that just because I'm "hot" that I need a male, then I wouldn't be so unfriendly.

I am NOT a piece of meat, stop looking at me like I'd look good with a side of veggies! AND STAY OUT OF MY PERSONAL SPACE!! !! !! !! !! !

Otherwise I try to be nice, I like having friends of either gender.

They're much more likely to be mean/rude without provocation when in groups of 3 or more for some reason.

Would you look good with fries and bbq sauce?

Now I am hungry.

I’ve never really understood what it means to treat them like pieces of meat.

I used to be particularly naïve about anything regarding physical violence, so it was hard for me to imagine women could act like that because they’re afraid of abusers. It was easier for me to read it as, “Not only am I obviously not interested at all in a worthless piece of dung like you—I’m offended at your mere thought that an exquisite being like me might feel otherwise”.

On the other hand, I’ve got this feeling mostly on the Internet; in real life, most women don’t actually look unfriendly to me. They probably can tell I know I’ll never get any close to them, so they don’t need to lift their shields.

If you get too close to the wrong person, it can result in the person trying to tell you what to do, what you can't do. You lose your freedom. There also are unstable people and women have gotten acid in the face, killed.

I think the reference to being treated like a piece of meat is that it is not a mutual relationship. One person is doing all the taking and the piece of meat is just there for the person's use.