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So after having sex, I told aspie dude "I just want to love you". He sighed deeply and said in disbelief "Oh......", and gave me a kiss. It's been two days and he hasn't said anything or contacted me, although I know he is busy with work.

Do aspie males that have been hurt in the past have a hard time believing that someone loves them? Is it that he doesn't feel the same way about me or hasn't thought through his emotions?

Do this through electronic means. Let him type out his feelings. That can work. Just work through it with him, but don't pressure him.

Also, he is a lucky fecker.

I did this. He usually replies with a and might call me afterwords. Strange...

For something big like "I love you" it might take a few days to process.

There might also be a difference in his mind between "I love you" and "I just want to love you".
He might be trying to figure out what it means.

All males do, to a greater or lesser degree. This is not just an "Aspie Thing" - it's a "Guy Thing".


You really need to ASK HIM!

We're just a bunch of strangers on a social website, with no clue as to what is really going through his mind.

It honestly baffles me why you would ask a stranger what someone else is feeling when you yourself have no clue at all!

ASK HIM!

Wow ... deja vu ... all over again ...

If any girl tells me they love me, here's my reaction...

"Go f**k yourself."

How long have you guys known each other/dated? Because if you haven't been together very long, that may be part of the reason, as he may not believe it at first.

when my sweetie told me she loved me, I took it at face value but I was floored. I had to screw up all my courage and step up to the plate. it was the most challenging thing I've ever done in my life.

We've known each other for over three years in a working capacity, but have only dated for the past 7 months. The sex is great, but he isn't very expressive emotionally, which confuses me.

I've never had the experience, since long ago that 1) I'rather be asexual, 2) what woman wants to live with a weirdo like me and 3)I could never figure out what a woman wants.

Right i love you is tough for anyone, but with aspies imagine it like 10* and maybe hes having trouble processing this news?

Allow me to translate:

"I just want to love you."

translation from penis-face-speak to English:

"I just want to DO stuff to you that makes ME feel good."

the implication being that whatever he does (and therefore whatever happens to him) is of less importance.

What you ought to do, especially being a woman, is admit that you are so absorbed in your own personal emotions that you don't have the cognitive means to be a guide for him in a confusing world.

yeah, i just want to love you..
isnt the same as i love you...
i mean they read totally differently

to this clueless aspie, it seems to mean the OP loves and wants to do nothing but keep loving her aspie man.

"I just want to love you" to me sounds like

"I just want to love you [but there is a problem why I can't]"

Especially if you said that after sex.

"I just want to love you" comes after "I love you." IMHO. it is the opposite side of the coin equivalent of "I just want to keep hating you" after saying "I hate you."