what was the result for love and success

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while a back, there was a survey for love and success for men, and same one for women.
what was the results for that.
I never got it. if you don't know what I am talking about here it is.
[quote="blue_bean"]Friendly Greetings WP,

Dr Blue_Bean here as a representative of the WP Bureau of Statistics with a survey intended to measure the dating and relationship success between males and females on the Autism Spectrum.
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so, what was the final result anyways?

who won?

Not be a smarta** but that is very obvious. Women on the spectrum have it 1,000,000x's easier than aspie men.

That's kind of exaggerating. Women on the spectrum might find it easier than the men on the spectrum, but for them, maintaining the relationship is the hard part. Guys have the harder time entering a relationship but a better shot of maintaining it. I believe there was a topic about this. (Someone please recall this for me!)

I think in general women have it much easier on the dating scene, but that could be my misconception.

Actually I read an article that said aspie women and nt men have a much better chance of having a successful marriage than an aspie man and an nt woman. Besides ... What you said doesn't really make sense considering you have to get into a relationship to have a chance to maintain one.Thus aspie women have it a million times easier when it comes to finding a partner. Btw , not trying to be a prick, just calling it like I see it. I see way too many aspie men online who are well into their 30s and even 40s and still virgins and its not for a lack of trying on their part. All the aspie women I have talked to have boyfriends or have in the past.

I am not sure what the experience would be like for an Aspie women, but the forums here seem to indicate that they have been in relationships more often than the men here do. That much is simple observance based on the forum posts I have read.

Likewise, for me and other men, it's our honesty with our feelings that seem to be used against us for the most part. NT men are usually more tactical about opening up their feelings. Aspie men could open up the feeling and suddenly the girl just disappears and you only hear from the girl on occasion. If the girl does in fact have the same feelings for you, she may not have expected to hear you open up so soon. The confusion usually starts here and part of the reason why is the Aspie men are typically much different than what the NT girl is used to and she doesn't know what to do.
Girls typically like to analyze everything and get confused easily because they are always trying to read my mind and they often have problems reading me. I got fed up at one point and started telling people "I'm as good as my word, so don't try reading my mind too much. You will likely get confused and upset this way" This does help keep people around for longer in my experience, but it sure doesn't stop them from trying to analyze me.

I don't know, I've found it both ways. In general, aspie males are seen as weaker than most individuals.

And if so, then there's also a societal problem. The way society treats those with disabilities who aim for healthy relationships is wrong.

In this argument, I dislike it, and I'm folding the cards.

If it helps, In terms of myself, I have reached each "love and dating" milestone approximately 5-7 years older than the average age it is reached at for the national population. For example: first kiss = age 19. I am very high functioning.

That's my observation here too.

I say, not only easier for them for having sex, but also for having relationship and also maintaining it.

Men usually are less demanding and more forgiving toward quirks.

Yes, YES, you are worse losers than us women! We'll gladly concede defeat in that argument!




I've been meaning to bump the survey threads to get the newish sort of crop of members to post their stats. A few dozen responses isn't really a big enough sample size IMO (I was aiming for at least 200 responses from each gender). Anyway I keep getting sidetracked by other things, you know how short attention spans go, but I'll definitely get to reviving the threads over the next week or so.

Ah I forgot to mention that female members often find this offensive (stating this obvious observation), I don't know why, while they should feel relieved lol. Screaming "That's not true!" and stuff like blue_bean is doing.

lol, she's pretending like she wasn't trying to conceal the results. I didn't participate in that dumb survey btw.

I don't find it offensive. I'm just giving them what they want; pandering to their pathological need to be worse off than other people, just so they have something to complain about.

You're a pro psychologist now?

I barely got half the responses entered in my spreadsheet. Getting more responses make more statistical sense for more accurate results. You can't conclude a survey with only 50 responses, that's just ridiculous.

Not exactly getting much encouragement to keep working on it now.

Better than nothing, we are hardly 100 active members.

Margin of error for a sample of 50 is around 14%; high but that's better than nothing.

Why not revealing the results blue_bean? What are you hiding eh?

I took a look at your survey for women thread, there was only 11 respondents, 36% were currently single, 45% married/in relationship and 18% divorced. 91% had past relationships, and 18% were virgins (one of the 2 by religious choice).

The men thread would take more time (5 pages) but vs 11 would be too insignificant.