Alright I am not sure if this belong here but I am sorry if it would be better suited somewhere else. I also apologize for this wall of text.
About six year ago I went to a prom like thing for homeschoolers and met a beautiful girl and talked to her and she got my phone number and she called me. We had alot of the same views on the world, and we started dating. After a few weeks we decided to just be friends. So from then on we were friends and over the years we talked about everything. Some intimate things and almost everything. I decided I loved her but she would only flirt with me. Many times she would stop talking to me for months for some reason then start again like nothing had happened, she did this alot when she was dating a guy. She said because she felt that we were so close that she felt like she was cheating on the guy, even though she would never date me.
I was diagnosed with aspergers when i was 16 and told her about it. As time went on she would flirt with me more but also say that she didn't think i had what it took to make her happy or that she could not deal with me being me so i decided i needed to get a handle on my social awkwardness and get a job, and learn to be independent. After many years we were talking and i thought we were close to actually dating, so i took her on one date last summer and lent her some movies of mine. 8 DVDS. I then moved to a residency program for people on the spectrum to learn to handle myself. She dropped off the face of the planet and then i got a hold of her a month after i got into the program and she had met a guy. Then she waited a few more months to contact me again, where she told me things were serious and that she didn't feel comfortable talking with me as much as she used to so i scaled back the openness. I talked to her a few times that week then nothing until October i think when i called her because i had had a horrible day and needed my best friend to talk to. She then asked me if she was to get engaged if i would come to her wedding. I had to hang up the phone so i wouldn't cry on the line. I cried for about 20 minutes and realized that this guy wasn't going to pass like the rest.
In December they got engaged. She didn't even call to tell me until a week later. I talked to her once i think after she told me she was getting married, when her man got hurt and i asked her what we were going to do about our friendship and she said she didn't know. At this time she seemed very different and uncaring towards me. She got married may 15 and is now pregnant. I contacted her to see if i could get my movies back the day before her birthday (june 25), she responded that she would have to wait till after her birthday. At midnight 24-25 i texted her saying happy birthday as is my custom to do for my friends. In response i got a text from another number claiming to be her husband and saying that i could not talk to her anymore except to get my movies back. I asked if i had done something wrong or what was up or why he felt that way.
He decided that instead of mailing me the movies he wanted to do it personally so he could have words with me. To which i responded that i am not comfortable with meeting him or that and that she should have explained i do not like those kind of interactions and would not do well. He then told me that the only way i would get the back would be to meet him so i hesitantly agreed. We set a time and place to meet.
I did not want to do this alone so i got my best guy friend who is also a martial artist to come with me to the rendezvous today. We got there early and he said he would be late by 45 minutes. We waited 2 hours and then he said he was not coming. I had to drive about 60 miles to make all of this work.
The moves are about 80$ in stuff and he refuses to mail them. I do not want to make a big deal about this but those are my favorite movies. Also she was a my bestfriend. I tried to tell him that as an aspie he can't scare me off. Unless she tells me to leave her alone and delete her from my life i am not going to. As her husband i do understand his need to protect her but my feelings for her evaporated when she got married. I knew i wouldn't be able to be her best friend anymore but i figured i could still chat with her every now and then. I have been told that i should back off lest he hurts me and i am ok with that. But after today i see no honor in him, and i just want to get my movies and forget her and him. However i feel he may hold my movies hostage, but the agreement is i get my movies and then leave them alone, but where are my movies?
I son't want to drag this into court because i feel it is not that big of a deal and it will be laughed at. I wanted this to all end in a civil way. I get my movies he tells me he feels threatened or she says she no longer cares about our friendship and it goes away and that's it. But i am beginning to feel that they will either try to file a restraining order if i keep contacting them about my stuff, or i will have to go to court. I just want this to go away and i want my movies. I feel that with them acting like this I should just try to make it as painful as possible for them or something. He is like 19 and she just turned 18 and im almost 21. We are all so young. Its alot of drama but i don't want it to get blown up.
Does anyone have any advice? I want my movies back, I stopped caring about the rest when he left me sitting in a waffle house parking lot for 2 hours during a thunderstorm.
Thanks for your time and help.
-Z
27 Jun 2013, 10:20 pm
