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Well, now. To each his own. You may state your opinion, but to personally attack me for mine is a poor sport, and pretty offensive at that.
I'm a pretty lowbrow gal at heart, and wealth seems to come with it's own set of trappings I prefer not to deal with.
As for power, there are many different types and types of wielders of it. Too broad of a statement for me to express a blanket decisive opinion one way or the other.

lol

Last edited by JanuaryMan on 15 Jul 2013, 8:20 am, edited 1 time in total.

And yet you found me "mysterious" before. Looks like someone's got a problem because I didn't reply to their ill-thought out PM...

I might have confused with someone else, I recall another user who was like you on this matter - so if it's the case then I am sorry.

^ Forgiven.

She was that far eastern user, she posted a pic of her hair and she started pming me fancying poems when I joked saying I am an Arab prince in a thread...


Ok, that was a great (and creepy) L&D moment but I've talked too much

I have learned that the 'post a picture of yourself' is a big help in dating.
I saw my boyfriend's picture on there, sent him a message saying he looked good, and things went from there!

OMG she went on to the male´s forum pretending to be a male to try to get members to send her fancy pms...

Her post were a bit weird but I miss seeing her interacting with people and hoping to impress everyone here

Yea, I think she was the one who said she only befriends rich people.

*sigh*

Last edited by JanuaryMan on 15 Jul 2013, 8:21 am, edited 1 time in total.

People here aren't exactly nice to these so-called PUA trolls either. Go a few years back in time, and you'll see that many frustrated men both here and everywhere else on the internet were just as misguided, and had just as much faith in PUA. I know for a fact that one of the sticky threads in this section was exclusively about PUA and not at all about actual tips on how to improve your dating prospects when you had Asperger's syndrome.

Fine, it wasn't ill-thought out.



I don't believe that. I don't care if you don't find me "mysterious". I just pointed out that you suddenly reversed your opinion of my post deletions.



Yes you were honest, but you were pointing out my shortfall with rolling eyes as if what I do is a bad thing. It is true you said it was mysterious when I deleted my posts before. You never used to have a problem with it.



You're right, I did overreact. However, I am not apologising to anyone. Simply because, everyone made huge assumptions about me and about anyone who thinks wealth is attractive.

There are people who find certain looks attractive, and there are people who think wealth is attractive. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THAT? It's just another form of shallowness. So f*cking what? Everybody is shallow whether those self proclaimed angels here admit it or not.

And I'm not some gold digger. I don't actively look only for wealthy people - that would be stupid and limit my potential to get perfectly decent dates. And I don't look down on poor people like those on here who judge fat and "ugly" people. The people who assume such ridiculous things about me really can go and f*ck themselves. There are people on here who outright refuse to date fat people, and yet I'M the one who gets stomped on just for stating that I find wealth attractive.

I just can't people on here seriously anymore. Why bother? You just get attacked with assumptions made about you and even when you do explain yourself - people keep their heads firmly wedged up their arses and don't listen. Why bother to treat people here with respect when they blatently don't respect me?

Last edited by smudge on 14 Jul 2013, 3:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You're entitled to like what you like, and you shouldn't pay too much mind to people that judge you for it.
We're almost all shallow in our own ways. No biggy.

Just know not everyone will agree with you, some might even be rather critical about your views. If someone goes a bit too far report it.
Lashing out any single thing inc. non-related criticism won't solve anything though.

FYI, there's always going to be an air of mystery about something that was said that gets removed if the reader doesn't get a chance to see it. Without seeing a post before its deletion its very hard to approve or disapprove, so of course I'm going to respect the decision of the person who asked a post be removed. Does that mean I can't form an opinion about someone who does this on a continual basis? Cmon! chill.

The thing about real life is... it rarely if ever gives us the opportunity to "take back" words as if they never happened whenever we make mistakes. We have to live with the words we have spoken, and build upon the foundations of any ruins. Sometimes, that may never be possible because what we say is simply too much. That is the beauty of opportunity and chance. I personally don't think you should have to defend yourself too much about what it is you like or don't like about suitors. That is your choice, and peoples' opinions are separate. I hope you choose to leave what you are saying up.

Learning to accept or deflect criticism at will is an acquired but useful skill. I don't understand the fuss...are there also puppy brains being served daily or something?

I challenge you to point to where I made a judgement against you. I was merely commenting on a point you made about how all forms of attraction are equally shallow.

@McCalavera: You did say attraction to wealth was extremely shallow. Although that statement by itself does not strictly mean you think someone who is attracted to wealth is an extremely shallow person, there is certainly a strong implication there. Although I question whether you knew that or not, the fact this is an aspie forum and that I don't really know how you act gives you plausible deniability on my eyes. Besides, attacking a belief does not necessarily mean you attack the one who professes it, otherwise PPR would be a mess

smudge, first, you're welcome
All I want to say now is, be mindful of how you react to criticism, or even personal attacks. By now you should already know "I find wealth attractive" is an unpopular belief, and that you will get attacked because of it. Boo was the one who brought that up, not you, so I can't say you should have been prepared for it because it just came up, but in this specific instance you could have reacted better. From your previous post I can see last time you professed this belief you were attacked, and being a lone voice amidst a sea of attackers is quite taxing; I guess that's one of the reasons I stepped in. But once you start lashing out and attacking other people you lose credibility, you give mindless attackers an excuse to keep going, you alienate well-meaning people and you undermine yourself. Even worse if it is indiscriminate; Mjr and JanuaryMan are actually good people as far as I know, and you almost made enemies out of them instead of allies. Even if you are unambiguously, personally attacked, if you do the same you're letting yourself be pulled down to their level.