tips for asking someone out and dating

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Okay, there's a guy at work who I really like. I'm not sure of he likes me because I have trouble working out whether he os flirting with me or just being nice. We finish work in a week and I want to figure something out before then, but I don't know whether to give him my number or what. I'm worried - I'm not good with people and I don't want to do something if I have mis-read the situation.

My question is, do you have any tips regarding either working out how someone feels towards you, or initiating some kind of contact or relationship?

Do you socialise with him outside of work? I find that's the best way to become more comfortable around workmates, and get to know each other a lot better, including how you all feel about each other. My suggestion would be to try to organise farewell drinks or something like that. Ask him first, so you make sure the day and time suits him (otherwise you might end up going for drinks with everyone but him if he's busy!).

If you do have some sort of farewell get together, it's a great time to get his number, just say you'd like to keep in touch if you don't feel bold enough to tell him how you feel. You could do that on your last day anyway, even if you don't go out.

I've not socialised with him outside of work yet, no. I plan on giving him my number and asking him to keep in touch, then he decides what kind of contact we have. I'm quite reclusive so I didn't speak to him for a while, he started talking to me some time last week and I think there's something between us but I could be wrong. I don't want to put him in a position where he feels awkward or something if he doesn't want to keep in touch, but I want him to know that I'd like to. Eh, I wish I was better at this social business.