HSP (NT?) in Love with Aspie

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Hello I'm an HSP (I guess you would call this NT?) in love with a male with Asperger's. I have been trying to read and learn all I can about how he sees the world, and he communicates very well...sometimes.
Because of being an HSP, there are many things that are shared with this trait and Asperger's....I'm wondering if there's anyone else out there in this situation? I also have synethesia....(emotion >> syn) ..so that's another way I can interpret his behavior as well.

Thanks!

I had to look up synesthesia to make sure I understand a little bit of what it means. You are referring to an emotional part of as the brackets indicate. So my understanding is that your synesthesia is emotional based? My guess is your emotions can cause a sensory overload? If that is the case, you are on track so far to what an Aspie deals with in terms of emotions or at least understand. I can sense that could cause some potential problems in how your friendship or relationship with him develops based off that.

I am finding it's best for me to get a good balance of emotion and thinking involved. I am not certain your Aspie is the same way.

How he might see the world would be different from how I might see the world. If you truly want to understand, it's best to ask him. He might not understand when or if someone cares about him as a lot of us in here seem to indicate that a lack of initiation from others will convince us that people don't care for us.

Yes, I see emotions. I'm on the higher end of the HSP "spectrum"...so I get overloaded with sensory stimuli very very quickly. ie. I go to the mall to do something and 30 mins later I need to nap and feel very exhausted. We're trying to relate.

He's very very intelligent, and tries very hard to explain what he's thinking. It takes him a very long time though, which is fine for me. I need to ruminate on things that are concerned with emotion as well.

I tell him that I love and adore him an awful lot He says that he's not able to respond to this in a typical way, but he will hug me or rub my shoulder.....it's enough

I find most relationships I have had in the past, that males are suffocating and I need lots and lots of space to process things. He says he needs a lot of space too, so I get that.

alright. Well let's just say he becomes more emotionally aware, how do you imagine you would feel then?

I would be ok with that