Why Some of Us Here Fail at Love and Dating

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A lot of Aspies seem quite good when it comes to romance, but many others are the opposite. I think many of us aren't successful at being in relationships because we're too boring or inappropriate for people (NT or Aspie) to consider us relationship-material. And also probably because we don't have the social skills to "mislead" (for lack of a better word) people into thinking we make good potential partners.

I'm including myself by the way. I've never given any girl a reason to consider anything long-term with me. The last girl I was seeing and "dating" wanted me to attend an art gallery with her and I practically left her there on her own half way through because I couldn't cope with being silent and looking intently at every single painting when most of them were just blobs of paint that made no sense to me. I think that may have contributed to her not wanting anything further with me (which is a shame as I quite liked her). I did apologize to her afterwards (for those who are wondering).

It explains why I've never been in an actual relationship, and at the age of 30 now, I don't think I'll ever be in one because it only gets harder for people like me.

Also, come to think of it, I've had many women attracted to me initially and liking what they see, but I don't recall ever a time when any of them actually fell in love with me or had an intense "knowledge-based" crush on me. Can't say the same about most of the people I know well in real life. Most of them had at least one person fall in love with them.

Anyway, just me pondering in public. Feel free to add your own tidbits to the discussion.

I would def say leaving her somewhere would be a reason she wouldn't like you.

I don't think you meant mislead, but I think more along the lines of feigning interest or being willing to put up with her interests that might not interest you.

There's def truth to this for some people I'd say.

Yes I feel like this is just part of autism, at least for myself anyway. Since learning about it I have given up hope of being in a relationship. I could do short term until they realise I don't feel anything. I used to fake it which can work for a while too.

You need to be a real person with feelings to be in a relationship. I am a hollow shell that feels nothing, so that is just one thing in life I will never have. It's a shame but not that upsetting. Relationships aren't the be all and end all of existence.

I would be surprised to see aspies being successful at FWB but I would be open to being proven wrong.

Maybe it's because you make jackassed comments on other people.

Your thread should be a post here:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt234892.html

they're basically the same

...Because were aspies? =95% insta fail.

Yep.

*pours Billiscool and 1000knives a beer!*

women just don't want to date some of us aspie men.
trying being a more moderate,very weird,over the top confidence autism
man,like myself. yes, the women will really love you,not.
but hey,it's fun. I enjoy life,and like myself,which probaly
the reason I don't get dates.lol